𝕀’𝕞 𝕓𝕖𝕥𝕥𝕖𝕣 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕟 𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕣 𝕨𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕟…
“𝘖𝘮𝘨 𝘈𝘥𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘰𝘯, 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘭𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘧𝘰𝘳 2-3𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘴. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘨𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘹 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘢𝘭𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘴𝘰 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘧𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘵. 𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘥𝘳𝘰𝘰𝘮”
This is the point in the conversation when I…
#1 – Wanted to cry (yes, it momentarily hurt my feelings)
#2 – Wanted to punch him in the face
#3 – Put my imaginary “bougie bitch” crown on
If that’s what other women are accepting then I’m just better than other women!
– Better at realizing my needs and desires
– Better at doing my personal work
– Better at communicating my truth
– Better at not faking just for a man’s pleasure
– Better at holding to my relationship expectations
I know that’s a harsh statement but it is truly what went through my head in the above conversation with my now ex-boyfriend.
If this is what other women in his life are constantly accepting as “great sex” than I am better than that!!
I work with women in my practice continuously that are struggling with their sex. I have spent decades advocating for women and them embracing their bodies and being themselves. I can remember being that girl that just wanted the sex to be done and didn’t care about exploring the depths of my pleasure. I was the girl that was the people-pleaser in relationships and didn’t see the importance of deeply connective sexual experiences for a woman. I thought sex was more for men. I would allow men to progress sex before I was truly aroused and I thought that was all I could have.
Then I woke TF up!
Got a coach.
Did my healing.
Did my exploration.
I get frustrated with women that continue to lie about their arousal and not demand more from their partners in the bedroom. And in truth more than excepting things from your partner… what about the expectations you have for yourself?
If we continue to teach our men that little effort is okay then we will continue to starve our sexuality as women and never tap into our full power.
Sometimes we are primed and ready to go in the bedroom and there is no shame in that… but sometimes we allow our men in WAY before we are truly warmed up and ready for penetration.
Stop faking it ladies. Stop cutting yourself short. Stop making excuses for accepting less than you deserve. If not for yourself then for the rest of us women.
Your woman is not a wind up doll. We are all different but there are no women that are reaching the depths of their orgasmic potential consistently in 5-10mins of sex from start to finish. Each and every woman is different and the fact is your woman is a different sexually each day. You can say thank you to hormones, stress, and emotions!
Women bring a different kind of sexing to the table and this is especially true for women that are self-aware. As a man, you know the masculine energy of sex but when mixed with the feminine sexing it becomes profoundly powerful. The deeper a feminine dives into her sex the more satisfaction overall that will comes into the experience.
Most men will tell you that they love seeing a woman in deep pleasure… is that true?
If it is true then ask yourself if you are truly stepping up to the plate.
The fact is that I don’t view myself as “better” than any other women but I do have expectations for “better” than average and ordinary in my relationships. I demand better of myself because I know it’s possible and how much more I thrive. We are all on our journey’s and hopefully choosing to consciously grow as individuals.
And the fact is that as a collective we should reach for “better” in how we connect in and out of the bedroom.
Be a BETTER woman!
Be a BETTER man!
Love you All,
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