Crossroads of Fear


I stand here today with a pretty important decision to make in my life. The universe has given me clear signs that I am at a crossroads, and straddling the fence is no longer an option. Although we never know for certain where any path will lead us, one of the paths I am currently facing is more known. I’ve journeyed on the path in the past, and in all honestly, this path makes people around me more comfortable and, if I’m honest with myself, more comfortable for me since I don’t have to face the discomfort of others’ judgments. But it is missing the passion I desire, and there will be pieces of me that I would have to compromise, contain, and shove into little boxes with pretty bows.

The other path is unknown because I’m creating it as I go, and that’s scary! There are more roots to trip on and branches to get hung up on. This path will require me to let go of safety nets, sit with others’ judgments of me, and continue to do deep personal work. This path is exciting and feels more freeing and in alignment with my spirit. In theory, I am always in favor of the things that set your soul on fire, but that’s a much easier decision when you are not standing right in the fire with the choice to jump out or sit in the flames and hope they don’t swallow you whole.

My soul knows the path I intend on taking. It knows where I am called to go. Yet despite all my personal growth work, my faith that the universe has me, and my knowledge that there is a purpose in all that happens to me, I still am human and fear still can creep into my consciousness. As much as my ego would like to pretend that I am just so amazingly enlightened that I don’t fall into fear, the truth is that I strive to live and also write authentically. So here I am—authentic, fearful, and yet still with an internal compass that I’m following.

I know I am not alone in having felt this fear, and honestly, if we aren’t a little scared of our lives, then we aren’t living big enough! So what do we do in times like this to push through? How do we move through our fear instead of getting caught in it and having it hold us hostage?

  • Journal or Talk with Someone: Some people are internal processors, others are external processors, and some (like me) need a bit of both to work through things. When we journal or talk things through, it allows us to hear ourselves and spot the faulty belief systems and stories that we are telling ourselves. We often discover new aspects of ourselves or the situation when we take the time to truly process what is going on in our heads. When journaling, it’s important just to let go, write, and not get caught up in saying the “right” thing or overthinking. If you are more of an external processor, then find someone who isn’t going to try to “fix” things but will give you enough space to hear yourself and even reflect back what they are hearing you say. Just be careful to choose someone who is truly going to be supportive of your process.
  • Meditate: Whether it be a more open meditation or guided meditation, find a way to really connect with your soul and spirit. Listen for messages from spirit guides, angels, or ascended masters, and also rely on your intuitive knowing. We so often second guess ourselves when our spirits are giving us a clear direction. Taking the time to connect with your true essence will bring a level of peace to the situation. When you are quiet in your divine energy, then there can be no fear, sadness, or ego because we are pure love and light in this place.
  • Breathe: I know, I know. It’s really simplistic but helpful. Focusing on deep breathing will clear negative energies out of our systems and allow for new oxygen and energy circulation. Sometimes, taking a second to breathe gives us just enough space from our thoughts to move through emotions.
  • Don’t Resist: Instead of fighting with your fear or other difficult emotions, acknowledge their presence, thank the emotion, determine what its message is, but then allow it to flow through. Easier said than done, but it is important because we are putting too much attention on the feelings if we try to resist. As the saying goes, “Where attention goes, energy flows.”

I know the above tools work. I am not going to suggest to my clients or readers that they do something that I am unwilling to do myself, and so I will be relying on these little gems in coming weeks. I have put these tools out there for you to try and practice. We can’t make our emotions or humanness disappear, but we can find ways to be in a better vibration and have a greater sense of peace deep in our hearts as we move through them. From one human to another, Namaste!

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Orgasm, Orgasmic Energy, and Living an Orgasmic Life!


Orgasm. What do you think of when you hear this word?

Most people hear this word and equate it with sex, which is and is not the case. Orgasm can happen during sex, but it is also a life energy and a way of living. Let’s break it down to help clear up all the misconceptions that are out there surrounding the elusive word.

Orgasm or Climax:

In sex, when someone hits the highest peak and has 5–30 seconds of intense peak sensation, it usually is labeled an orgasm. What they are actually speaking about is the climax. Orgasm is all the peaks and valleys of sensation during sex and can, at times, have moments of intense sensation (climax), but is more like a wave and less of a metaphorical cliff that someone falls off sexually. There are numerous different types of sexual orgasms—skin, g-spot, emotional, clitoral, breast, spiritual, etc. The types of orgasms vary, and as we learn more about the human body and sexuality in general, this variation increases. Women will often tell me that they are not “multi-orgasmic,” but the truth is that we are ALL orgasmic and have the ability to have multiple orgasms or, in truth, ride different waves of the same orgasm for seconds to hours.

That all being said, in my business, when talking about orgasm as a sex coach, I am often talking about the state of orgasm or orgasmic energy rather than a peak or specific sexual event.

Orgasmic Energy:

When talking about orgasmic energy, we are talking about being connected to our bodies and the energy that is flowing in our bodies. This energy could be in the way you have a thrilling sensation when you take that first sip of coffee in the morning or how your cheeks flush when you are embarrassed. Orgasmic energy can be present anywhere—church, the grocery store, work, anywhere! Orgasm does not require nudity, sex, or even touch. Orgasm is a state of being.

To give a quick example, I’m sitting here writing this article and eating a clementine. I am connected with the pure energy this food is giving off but also with the way it caresses my tongue, the sweetness that escapes its moist skin, and the touch of sourness that sends a thrill down my spine. I am connected to how my sacral chakra alights with the consumption of this delicious fruit. I am in a true state of orgasmic energy.

 Connecting with your orgasmic energy requires you to begin to get very present in your body and life. This state of being is one of the things I enjoy helping people discover in my business—how to really reconnect with their physical selves and begin to recognize all the yummy sensations that are ever-present in the body. This work usually requires the process of learning about your chakras and meridian points on your body and taking conscious time to tap into them during meditation or other tantric/energetic practices.

Orgasmic Life:

Then there is having an Orgasmic Life and living from the place of your orgasmic energy all the time. This experience is when you are reveling in all the little ups and downs of your life and are in tune with your physical, emotional, and spiritual energies and integrate them. Having an orgasmic life is when you choose to live in gratitude for all the moments given to you by the universe and choose to flow with them instead of resisting. An orgasmic life is not sitting in a life where you have a million tolerations and are just getting by but instead jumping towards what you desire, and you begin to learn to surf the waves of your emotions. It is finding things in your life that turn you on (sex, travel, adventure, family) and doing exactly that, throwing yourself head first into the passion you feel when you are engaged in these things. It’s living in the moment and recognizing when you are stopping your own pleasure.

For me, living my orgasmic life is continuing to work in a career that I love and actually doesn’t feel like work but instead feels fun and exciting. It is having colleagues to collaborate with who bring new ideas, excitement, and joy to my already passionate career. It’s being able to experience love in all its many forms and sit in the beautiful orgasmic energy of spirit. It is feeling a friend’s arms around we while I cry, and I can melt into the energy. It’s the soft brush of a lover’s lips that sends goosebumps over my skin. It’s travel and laughing with friends and continuing to reach for the life of my dreams while being in a state of gratitude for the life I currently have.

That is orgasmic energy and living an orgasmic life. And that, ladies and gents, is what is truly ORGASM!

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