You Are A Liar… and you don’t even realize it.
Lies, lies, sweet little lies.
You don’t even see how they flow out of your mouth
How you have gotten to a place of believing these lies.
And now you are simply living your life based upon a lie.
A lie you have told yourself.
So what exactly are we talking about here?
The lies we tell to keep ourselves comfortable and often the lies we tell to keep a relationship.
Not the big lies of massive proportion but really the lies that come from not truly tuning into ourselves or allowing our logical brain to take the lead without any breathing in the reality of a situation.
And they first start out as lies within ourselves and then will permeate into lies you are telling others.
And these lies we inevitably tell ourselves and others break down a relationship.
Lately as I watch my clients, my own relationship, and the relationships of those I love I can see the ramifications of these un-embodied moments that are indeed lies.
The moments when your partner asks you if you are “okay” and you don’t take the time to check in with self but say “yeah I’m fine”. When in truth you emotions are whirling within but you haven’t given yourself the space to get present.
The moments when your partner wants to expand the relationship or try something new in the bedroom. You have the thought about how you need to do this to keep the relationship going. You play the situation through your logical brain but don’t really fully take time to embody what that new scenario would look like/be like… thus leading you to give an unaligned response.
It’s when you have a desire, a hunger, a fire burning in your belly for something but you tame it down out of an attempt to fit in with society, someone else’s morals, or with your partners desires. And it comes from first lying to yourself about how important that fire in your belly is to you.
It happens in big ways and small ways.
The problem being that with each immediate unaligned response we get further and further away from our cores and thus our purpose in this lifetime. We confuse and conceal ourselves from our partners and at times rope them into a relationship that is built on wishes instead of reality.
And there are times when we are all well wishers or think that we are giving a truthful response…
So what do we do?
Well, it is important to take the time to slow down and connect with your energy and emotions daily. When we are constantly embodying ourselves throughout the day it is easier to give alignment to our relationships.
Its also important to keep communication lines open…
Just because you thought you were a YES to something doesn’t mean that you have to stay a yes! Sometimes fantasy needs to stay fantasy because in reality it doesn’t play out in an aligned manner. So sharing these moments when things are stirred within…
Asking to slow something down or have some space to truly work with your growth is a beautiful gift of honesty for a relationship.
And for self.
Because… while there is the moments of intentional lies that can happen in relationships…
Most lies are first and foremost from a space of lack of truth with self. A lack of presence. A pushing away of one’s core.
The best thing you can do for any healthy and growing relationship is to make sure to take the time daily to align within self first.
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There is something so powerful and moving about allowing yourself to sit in all your nakedness and feel your power while you at the same time witnessing another in their nakedness.
Nakedness is first and foremost an inner game.
Until we are able and willing to love ourselves as we strip ourselves down to our core…
See our light and our dark
Recognize our wounds and holdbacks
Allow ourselves to own our own power
Until we do these things with self we can never be truly naked with another person.
True nakedness comes from true vulnerability and authenticity.
My question to you today is if you are ready to join this rare few?
Men or Women… this is about you standing in all your magnificence!