1. Start with “Hey” and nothing else. She’s got 50 other messages and so isn’t going to waste time with “Hey”.
  2. Don’t send an unsolicited Dick pic and then ask if they think they can “handle it”. You’re really not going to like the response you get!
  3. If you are interested in just having more of a physical relationship still lead in with some general conversation. Don’t jump straight to the “Would you be willing to have a threesome with me and my girlfriend?”
  4. Don’t message someone if you don’t have a picture and/or anything on your profile
  5. Have your friends take a good picture of your for goodness sake. This means don’t have dirty laundry in the background, don’t have other girls in the picture, brush your hair, and shave and/or have a clean looking beard. Also make sure the pictures are current.
  6. Don’t message someone without reading their profile. It just shows you didn’t take the time to read if you start asking questions that are within the first few lines of a profile.
  7. Don’t get pissed off if someone doesn’t respond right away to your message! We are all adults and people have jobs and other responsibilities. And if you aren’t getting a response then the person probably isn’t interested. Try one more time and then move on.
  8. Use humor but be careful not to insult the person you are messaging. When we can’t see or hear someone it is harder to distinguish sarcasm.


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