“I won’t open my legs up for a man that, at this moment, I wouldn’t open my arms for. ”
I took a deep breath.
I felt this woman’s statement to me but more than that I felt the energy of sorrow behind it.
I felt the energy of all the women past and present in my life.
These words that stir and bring to me the image of the ferocious feminine as well as the internal hunger of a woman not feeling fed.
I breathed in a sense of deep understanding in that moment.
Women often get accused of being shut down and disconnected from their sex as relationships progress forwards.
And the truth is that many women do oftentimes shut down their sex, pleasure, and armor up in a million different ways both as they age and as they get settled in a relationship.
The woman that once was adventurous in the bedroom is suddenly barely wanting to engage with her mate even once a month!
Many in our world don’t even question this plummet of sexual desire and pleasure in women. In truth we even make jokes about it, “Say goodbye to your sex life”, as soon as a man gets married to a woman.
But this is not the way it has to be!
And the statement …
“I won’t open my legs up for a man that, at this moment, I wouldn’t open my arms for. ”
Truly speaks to the female wounding and why so many women are shut down in their sex.
A feminine is aroused first and foremost from a heart level.
They need to trust their male partner
They need to feel the love/connection
They need to feel safe to be who they are in the moment
They need to want to embrace their partner from a heart centered space before they can let him into their sanctuary of sexual energies.
Sure a woman can f*ck a man and the process of intercourse can happen but there is no getting to her true sexual energies and depth from a closed hearted space.
And in relationship we often pick-up little traumas and resentments… and these resentments build up in our heart spaces.
(One of the very reasons more women have breast cancer!)
When these things are ignored or pushed aside in our relationships then energetically our arms close to our partners and really to the world.
Women stop wanting to have sex because they are not aroused from a heart space.
They feel unsafe in delving into the vulnerability that is required in opening up their heart and thus energetically opening up their “legs” (sacral chakra)
It’s often too intense and too painful and so while they may go through the motions they are not truly with their bodies.
And men fall down by not taking the time to arouse her from a heart space… and that oftentimes is not just flowers and chocolates. Instead it is a constant process of showing up…
Showing up with her body and the way she needs to be stroked open from her heart
Showing up by daily speaking her love language
Showing up in arguments to not ignore but to work through the disconnection and differences that are inevitable in real relationships
Showing up by living from your divine masculine that can hold space and she can truly trust
Showing up by allowing her to play out her feminine dance in all it’s beauty and fire.
When a woman feels her man can truly handle her and fully hold her heart, then she can work through any blocks within, and then…
Well then… She’s RAVENOUS!!!
A woman that is able to open her heart fully to you will be able to open her legs to you and will be unquenchable.
It’s about a man laying the groundwork and being willing to come to table to work through the relationship issues
And honoring that the feminine is different from the masculine.
You can work wonders on a woman’s genitals but if her heart is closed then part of her sex will always be icy.
Warm her heart…
Help her heal.
That’s simply the key.
Love, Light, & Blessings,
Addison
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