You were lonely…
So you went out looking for a dog.
A dog to keep you company and to fill your spaces.
But upon your search you came across the most magnificent CAT.
The cat was so pretty
The fur was soft
It was playful
It was cuddly.
You were looking for a dog but you choose to take the cat home and decide to turn this cat into a dog.
Choosing to ignore that it’s a cat.
Every time the cat does something cat-like you simply redirect to dog behaviors. You start calling it dog, you teach the cat to play fetch, you get it a bowl and only feed it dog food.
You even try to dress this cat up in a dog costume.
The false dog gets sick on the food
The false dog tries to pull off the costume
The false dog tries to play non-dog games
Those around you keep trying to remind you that you have a cat and not a dog but you again sweep these things under the rug.
Then one day the false dog decides to meow and scratch you.
You are SHOCKED.
You are shocked because you deluded yourself into thinking you had a dog. You thought that you could train the naturalness of being a cat out of this living creature.
But at the end of the day you ALWAYS had a cat in your midst.
Well ladies and gentlemen….
We do this in our relationships all the time.
We bring someone into our lives and try to make them someone they are not in order to make ourselves comfortable.
If it speaks like a cat, acts like a cat, eats like a cat… it’s a cat! Instead of honoring the person (cat) before us we instead try to think that we can change it.
And people never change for someone else!
It may look like they change but we only truly change at a core level because of our authentic desire.
We then get angry at them for being who they were the entire time.
They may even be speaking this the whole time!
Yet we use excuses and rationalizations
We hide from self and from them!
** Someone who is playful gets blamed for their playfulness
** Someone who is aligned to open relating gets blamed for open relating
** Someone who is sexually oriented gets blamed for their attraction
** Someone that is in the divine feminine gets blamed for her flow and fire
** Someone that is in the divine masculine gets blamed for his purpose.
It’s not that people don’t change because change and transformation are inevitable… that being said and our core is always our core. The calling of our soul will always be the calling of our soul.
So today I ask you…
Did you pick-up a cat and now want to turn it into a dog?
Because in order for that cat to even act like a dog it would take a killing a piece of its very core.
Are you wanting to kill the core of the people you claim to love?
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There is something so powerful and moving about allowing yourself to sit in all your nakedness and feel your power while you at the same time witnessing another in their nakedness.
Nakedness is first and foremost an inner game.
Until we are able and willing to love ourselves as we strip ourselves down to our core…
See our light and our dark
Recognize our wounds and holdbacks
Allow ourselves to own our own power
Until we do these things with self we can never be truly naked with another person. True nakedness comes from true vulnerability and authenticity.
My question to you today is if you are ready to join this rare few?