Stop the Lies!!!

Unpopular opinion… guess what?

You don’t have to be “fully healed” (whatever TF that is!!!) in order to be loved or to be in a relationship.

You don’t have to earn love by working ‘hard enough’ on yourself.

You are worthy and deserving of love right now… in this moment… and with all your perceived brokenness.

We are all a little broken and there is no finished destination of healing that we suddenly arrive at when when we have read enough self-help books or gone to a certain amount of workshops.

Continuing to ONLY focus on your inner world actually is making you miss out on your growth and expansion. It’s keeping your from truly embodying and connecting to the love that is there to teach and guide you on this journey in your life. Read more

When we have kids or are around kids, it’s pretty common sense that if they ask a question or aren’t understanding a perspective, that we will talk at “their level”.
As a coach, I do this daily with clients because while pushing my clients to grow, I also recognize that they are all at different stage in their lives. More than that though, I realize that their experiences and foundations are different.
Though in my daily life with lovers, family, and friends. Sometimes I make efforts too come at those I love with the same understanding and at other times…
Well let’s just say that I lose this perspective.
The perspective of talking and understanding others from where they are at mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, not just to appease them but to expand self.
When we lose sight of that fact that every person has a different foundation and thus different neurological patterns for how they process and act, we lose sight of the other person.
Not only do we lose sight of the other person but we close down our own growth process but we also step into a space of self-centered. Centered in our own thoughts, feelings, desires, and not willing to open that view to anyone else.
And it’s a common thing in most relationships!!

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“That’s indecent!”
Years ago when I started down my path of tantra, and then eventually opened my business, the above was stated to me over and over again.
Friends, family, and society was NOT okay with me embracing my sexuality in a public way.
Showing skin…
Talking about desires and pleasure…
And especially embracing sexual energies…
Was seen by many as indecent.
I was shamed by my surroundings in order to get me to comply.
And I refused!
I saw my path and my power and was determined to let it shine fully and that included lets my sex unleash.

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In this life it all comes back to us!
We enter this world alone and with a unique path and purpose.
And while others often walk with us on the journey at the end of the day this life is ours alone. These other path walkers are part of our purpose and our guides if we choose to accept them.
Though this entire life comes back to the world first within each of us.
We can only love, and connect at the level to which we have loved, and connected with ourselves. We can only grow and expand by first touching base within and noticing the alignment required.
Each and every one of us can go out and live and love from our most authentic selves and we will still at times be misunderstood.

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Raya: “The world’s broken. You can’t trust anyone.” Sisu: “Maybe it’s broken because you don’t trust anyone.”
-Disney’s “Raya & The Last Dragon”

I sat watching this movie in the theatre with some of my favorite munchkins (aka kids).
I watched as the story evolved into a story about trust and conversely a lack of trust in this dystopian land. The way to saving their world came down to trusting those around them.

As the characters stated the above quote…
It really rang true to my heart…

For our society as a whole right now but even more so, for the the state of our personal relationships. Read more

Athena and the Ever Lasting Love Lessons
The last few days I’ve been pretty quiet… not just on social media but just quiet even in my life. Contemplative.
The other day I said good bye to one of my best friends. In truth I had to make the hard decision to end her life because of the life I saw her living. This friends name was Athena and she was my childhood cat, that I had for 18yrs.
Yes, she was just a cat but she and I were a team in many ways and she saw me through many life stages and difficulties.
So in the grieving process I’m been thinking of the lessons I learned from this beautiful heart-centered little soul. And while there are so many lessons… the main is LOVE.
Love is ever-lasting and never wasted.

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You have the most beautiful soul.
Look into the depth of your eyes and you will find your core.
Deep down beyond all the drama and trauma.
Past the ego and the protective layers.
That is where you are.
That is who you are.
This egoic world pulls you this way and that…
Telling you who you are and what you are.
Pointing fingers and taking blame.
Beating up others and ripping apart from self.
Allowing the energies around you too slow transform you away from that person beneath the surface that is your truth.

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The beautiful blues took my breath away!

The smells were taking over my senses and the sun on my skin.

I could almost hear the waves striking the rocks on the shore.

It was a moment of immense peace in a challenging day.

Because all of this was done in my living room as I looked upon a multitude of oceans from my previous travels.

Instead of simply longing to be there, I created the feeling in the moment.

I took a 2 minute vacation!

I could have gone there longer but I found the feeling I was desiring and I hung there for long enough to shift my internal energy. Read more


𝒯𝒽𝑒 𝒞𝑜𝓊𝓇𝒶𝑔𝑒 𝑜𝒻 𝓉𝒽𝑒𝐼𝓃𝐵𝑒𝓉𝓌𝑒𝑒𝓃

You know those times after you’ve had some massive realizations and started to make changes in your world.

Specifically in your inner world.

The times AFTER you’ve spent days, hours, and weeks really processing, learning, and opening your heart and mind to take in the new information.

This is often the tine when you need the most courage on your journey.

Yes, it takes courage to see your own shiz and face it. It takes courage to make the decision to truly choose a new direction or path.

But the in-between space of beginning to practice and implement in the most courageous time of all. It is truly what sets those who achieve and those who do not achieve apart. Read more

TᕼE Oᒪᗪ ᗯOᗰᗩᑎ TᕼᗩT ᑕᕼᗩᑎGEᗪ ᗰY ᗪᗩY!
The self-analysis was strong with me this morning!
I woke up in a strange energy and knew I needed to give myself some space for processing of some recent realizations.
So instead of forcing myself to do work that was not aligned, I ended up at my favorite park.
Despite trying to pull my brain back to my body and the present moment….
Off it ran during the walk to criticize myself about some recent situations. I ended up in complete analysis paralysis.

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