Oversensitivity shuts down our growth in health, racism, and our lives.

Do you know when I get a woman in my office that has been traumatized it is not uncommon for her clit to be so sensitive that she can’t stand to be touched.

Her husband or partner will go in with the gentlest of touches, with love, care, and compassion. Deeply desiring to help…

And she is still in pain and at times she get angry and lashes out at her man. Or she sits and cries and completely shuts down.

 

As a woman that has had her fair share of sexual trauma throughout her life, I understand her shut down and her rage.

Unfortunately, this is the same thing I am seeing right now when I am looking around at the world.

Oversensitivity and shutting down.

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Before I jump into this let me make it very very clear.

Racism is NOT okay.
I’m not advocating for racism… overt or covert.

And I could give a rats backside what your political affiliation is… left/right/middle… all are guilty

Also, your health is YOURS to take care of and so you have to choose how that’s best for you to do. Quarantine… Don’t quarantine…. I also don’t care. I know whats best for me.
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Now that, that’s all been said… On with the show (or point).

Currently our society is walking around like a woman with an oversensitive clit…. shutting down and lashing out.

I watch and hear the conversations all around me, regarding racism. Important conversations that need to be taking place to move us forwards.
And there is definately trauma in these conversations.

I listen as people are discussing what needs to be done both politically and in our daily lives regarding COVID-19 and keeping us all safe. Some desire to lock us up tight for good while others want to go about life as it was. Vastly different viewpoints and tons of finger pointing. But impact has been made all around.

So many conversations, protests, and action being taken.

But what it has been a rarity to see over the last few months has been LISTENING.

Instead we are ready to fire back and jump on our friend, neighbor, or loved one before they even finish a sentence. Not allowing them to complete a thought or fully sharing what they are trying to express.

On social media we are attacking those that are trying to help, understand, and are even on our side.

Especially within the conversations around race.
I’ve watched my white friends say that “Black Lives Matter” and get torn apart for their support. Getting berated for simply supporting a cause with no other statements except “I support you”. Of course they don’t know what it is to be black… but we can still support those we love and those that aren’t in our lives of every color.

I’ve also watched my black friends share that they think some of the events that have happened amidst the protest (looting, violence, destruction of random property) as wrong. And they also have gotten beaten down and torn apart for not having enough pride in their race.

On the COVID-19 & political front the same things are happening. Blaming sides and pointing fingers and shutting down at the mention of this politician or that.

There is a deep wounding that has happened and we are so sensitive that we are smacking every hand that tries to connect whether it be in harm or in compassion.

Just like a traumatized clit… you have to breathe into the sensation of discomfort in order to eventually get to the point of pleasure. There is a de-thawing process that must take place and within that there is a lot of tears, pain, and deep breaths that must take place. But on the other side there can be pleasure… but the clit has to stay in the game long enough with the partner in order to move through

 

The same thing is true in our world today. We are traumatized (some more than others) and tensions are high. Many are fearful and guarded. So we must approach each other with this understanding.

If we can’t slow down enough to truly listen and try to have compassion for the different viewpoints than we won’t make progress and a sense of pleasure can’t emerge. The conversations are uncomfortable but if both parties are coming from a desire to understand and support then we have a chance of making progress.

Though right now the smallest word gets stated, a name get said, a tone gets used…. And we erupt!

Are there non-negotiables in these conversations???

YES!!!
Are there fighting words???
YES!!!

But you have to stop trying to create your next brilliant response long enough to hear someone out, to know if the words are truly fighting words or if you haven’t simply allowed them to share a perspective which could actually be fully aligned to your own.

Or maybe it’s not in agreement with your perspective but they also aren’t a perpetrator.

Just like a traumatized survivor can react to a perpetrator or a lover…

The same thing goes for our mental traumatization and the events happening right now.

We have to remember that not everyone is out to break us and condemn us. In truth most people are trying to love, understand, and make it through the chaos to find that place of pleasure and connection.

So my message today is…

Just try to listen today and listen from the standpoint that the things being brought to the surface are sensitive but that we can move through.

But we have to breathe before responding and tune into the energy if movement is to be made. If progress is to happen snapping at everyone around us is not the way to make that progress happen.

Let’s…

~Recover To Life~ Together

Sending you all… MASSIVE

Love, Light, & Blessings

Addison

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