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Spiritual Jargon Abuse

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Spirituality is uplifting until you use it as a weapon to back bad behaviors.
 
The last few weeks this concept has been stirring in my brain. Not quite fully formed as I fought with myself in perfect Virgo style of wanting to see all sides of a situation.
 
But I also have been in observance mode.
Observance mode of how we use our spiritual tools and concepts to back our negative behaviors…
 
To disconnect from our fellow man
To create even more judgment
To feel superior
And to back our laziness to put true effort into our lives and relationships.

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But I Forgot!

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Whoops, I forgot.
“I forgot to wear underwear for my session”
“I forgot to pay my bill”
“I forgot that we had something planned”
“I forgot to do my homework”
I forgot, I forgot, I forgot.
Something that has always been used as an excuse in people’s lives but has had an upswing over the last few months with everything going on in our society and world.
Some would say that maybe our minds are just so busy with other things and the chaos….
But I dare to share that…
I believe this is simply a lack of many wanting to take responsibility for their own manipulation and massive moments of ego.

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If You Love Them

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If you loved them… you’d let them go.
You’d want them to shine their light.
You’d look at the beauty and step out of ego.
If you loved them you wouldn’t try to hurt them
You would not want to see them in pain and suffering
You would not want to create chaos in their world.
Though the majority of relationships that preach… LOVE
Are simply faking it.
It’s not love but conditional need fulfillment.
If your partner is filling your needs then you are in “love” but the second that things go south in a relationship and it is no longer aligned…
Well then you call people names, mess with their stuff, try to ruin their other relationships, etc.
You allow your ego to take the reins and the entire time with a vengeful attitude.
Which is never and will never be love.
It’s easy to watch this is relationships all around us…
When divorce cases drag the others reputation through the mud
When in a break-up one partner stalks another
When lines are drawn in the sand with friends and family
Or simply the process of berating the other party to those around us.
Does this really come from a place of love?

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I Have this “Thing”

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“I have this, ‘thing’ sexually”, he tells me over a nice dinner.
So, I inquired….
“Well what is your ‘thing’ then?”
Then he glances at the table for a millisecond and then straight into my eyes, “I get really turned on by kicking my subs with steel-toed boots while they are on the ground. I try to be careful not to break any ribs”. Read more →

I’m Only Human

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I’m Only Human

I’m only human.
I can’t read your mind and you can’t read mine.
We must verbalize and share our hearts to know one another at the next level.

To understand and have a better viewpoint of why we say or do the things in our lives… we must speak and not assume.

You and I can both make up stories in our heads about intentions and desires, but most of the time we are wrong.

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Relationships Keeping Your Stuck

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You are choosing the relationships that are keeping you stuck.

Yes, most of us choose relationships that are comfortable but not comfortable in the sense that we feel seen, heard, and understood. No, we choose relationships that are comfortable in the way that we don’t have to push ourselves and grow.

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Moving & Clearing

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I’ve been in the process of moving over the last two weeks and I’m amazed.
Amazed at all the little junk that a person can accumulate
It’s the little tiny shit that is the biggest pain

The moving of the big furniture is heavy and hard but there is a feeling of accomplishment. 
I see the big furniture.
It’s very present.
What I didn’t see was all the tiny and tedious items
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