Where’s your focus?
 
Are you focusing on that little bit of blue sky or are you focusing on all the clouds that are surround. The clouds that could quickly melt away with enough radiance from the sun?
 
And you might be saying, “No, I’m focusing on the good”
But if you look at your life is that truly the case?
Maybe, yes (way to rock it out!)
Maybe, no (we can simply refocus)
 

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You have to own your Shiz…
But then you have to allow others to own their shiz too!
 
Lately I’ve seen a pattern with clients and those in my life. Beautiful and expansive souls that are wanting to better themselves, with the biggest and most beautiful hearts.
 
They see how they are manifesting their current reality
They see how they still have inner work to do
They see how their wounds are holding them back
And they are healing in fabulous ways…
 
But then they look to the people in their lives and begin taking responsibility for everything going on in their relationship. Letting the others off the hook of their part in the relationship and the other parties responsibility to deal with their own demons. Making consistent excuses and thus not truly loving someone in the manner that creates change.
 
We often hear how it is wrong to blame others in our lives and how our life is our responsibility. I stand by this statement and at the end of the day we are the ones that need to look at our lessons, missteps, and growth. We call in our realities and can choose to change our reality.
 
Though blaming self for everything going on with everyone else is just as egotistical. It is the introverted ego that wants to have power. It is taking God’s business and your business and turning it into MY business.
 
It is often believed that we are loving on someone by making consistent excuses for them but this is the furthest thing from the truth. This only enables the other person to blame outwards, to not looking at their own work, and also it keeps from have honest and loving conversations that will inevitably grow that other person.
 
This is not to say that if someone is having a challenging time or situation that we can extend grace but there is grace and then there is taking on others shiz.
 
Usually this is based on past learnings and attachment styles for childhood and not clearing these things within self. We are always a work in progress… ALWAYS!
 
And so it is imperative that we not only give others grace but that we give ourselves that same level of grace.
And this grace starts with not picking up other people’s shiz and placing it in our own laps. We each have enough shiz of our own and don’t need anyone elses!
 
It’s important to see and also appreciate where you are still growing and healing. To flow your vibration upwards and allow yourself to make different choices that support your desired life… but also it’s important to know you will never be “done” with your growth and that it’s okay to take time to just live and not fix.
 
It’s important that we also give others the gift of dealing with their shiz. Empowering them to own where they still need work and to do that work.
 
Still potentially allow the coming together of two souls from the place of never being “done” and utilizing each other for the beauty of the lessons that emerge in the relationship. But you don’t do anyone any favors by always taking on another’s shiz.
 
You take yours and I’ll take mine…
And we can love each other from the place of constant transformation!
 
Go Recover Your Life… your passion, your joy, YOURSELF!
 
Love, Light, & Blessings,
Addison
 
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It’s already seeping in for some.
The depression.
The sadness.
The struggle with mental health.

I’m already hearing stories of the darkness that is enveloping people’s minds in our current world situation.

When we are forced to stop our normal hustle and bustle then we must be with self. We must be with our entire selves and all the intricate pieces.

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Stop Calling Yourself A Wounded Healer
 
As humans we all sustain areas of wounding as we progress through life. Some are tasked with moving through great areas of contrasting life experience in order to grow and expand.
 
And many individuals feel called to help others that have similar wounds. That beautiful tug from soul to help another soul on their journey.

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You are not one thing… you are everything!

“Addison, you are a Bada*s”
“Addison, you are so spiritually connected”
“Addison, you are so shy!”
“Addison, you are so playful”
“Addison, you are so rigid”

Yep, I am ALL of those things! And so much more

And guess what???
You, my dear, are the same!

You might not be those specific things but you are a beautiful conglomeration of a multitude of different aspects.

Back when I was a full-time therapist I spent years studying a technique call psychodrama. Psychodrama is all about putting the drama of our inner psyche out in front.
Seeing it…
Re-creating it…
Dealing with it…

I still am in love with the methodology but one piece of this technique is something called a “Parts party”

It’s about seeing and working with all the different elements of who were are…

BECAUSE

We are so much more than one thing!

In truth, even in our most authentic living and relating only certain elements will be drawn out based upon the scenario and energy.

This is the beauty of being human and why in relationships there is ALWAYS more to learn and know.
About self
And about other.

Just when you think you know someone and the relationship is getting boring… if you dive just a bit deeper…appraoch things in a slightly different way… get even a drop more of effort going…

You can uncover a beautiful new part!

Often we can find ourselves in ruts with those in our lives because we have stopped allowing ourselves to tap into different energies or parts of self in a relationship.

We get cozy and comfortable with the parts that come out and don’t push ourselves to find that deeper level of authenticity or new energies.

At the same time, we often stop seeing others in our own lives from a different perspective…

If we have seen someone as serious… we struggle to change perspective and see their play

If we see someone as strong and powerful… we miss the moments of softness and vulnerability

If we perceive someone as stuck or lacking in personal growth… we lose sight of all the expansive growth they are making that we are choosing to be blind to.

We get comfortable!!!

Yet, one area we do this in is our own relationship with self.

We lose sight that within us is a treasure trove of magical pieces. We can use these different aspects to move us forwards or to tear us down.

We must choose each day which “parts” we choose to live in alignment with…

Do you wake and choose to focus on the parts of self that come straight from soul or those that have been established from pure egoic experiences?

Do you awake and choose to live in alignment with the parts of self that lift you closer to your soul goals?

The difference?? One makes you feel GOOD. The other type just plain and simply DOESN”T!

We can not control if others choose to touch into our depth
But what we CAN CONTROL is…

If we tune into our own depth and from which parts we are choosing to live from in any given moment.

AND, AND, AND

If we are open and allowing the fluid nature of ourselves then we are opening a door for others to see us in a different light.

If you get stuck thinking of yourself in a narrowly focused way then this is how others will respond to you.

So my question is not “who do you want to be” because the fact is everything you want to be you already ARE…

My question and focus for you is to ask yourself…

“What aspects of myself do I want to shine brighter today? Where will I allow myself to be seen for all that I am?”

Because all parts of you are beautiful and needed
And have made you into the spectacular human you are…

But growth requires us to constantly reexamine where we are leading from.

So where are you leading from today?

Go live a fierce and fulling life today!!
Addison Bell

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Don’t make it so complicated!

At the end of the day all our dreams, goals, and desires come back to us wanting to FEEL GOOD.

We want laughter, joy, pleasure, freedom, love, and every other yummy juicy emotion.

Our soul goals are all about feeling and experiencing.

Yet we think that we have to wait.
Wait for that trip
Wait for that event
Wait for the money
Wait for the relationship

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