When we have kids or are around kids, it’s pretty common sense that if they ask a question or aren’t understanding a perspective, that we will talk at “their level”.
As a coach, I do this daily with clients because while pushing my clients to grow, I also recognize that they are all at different stage in their lives. More than that though, I realize that their experiences and foundations are different.
Though in my daily life with lovers, family, and friends. Sometimes I make efforts too come at those I love with the same understanding and at other times…
Well let’s just say that I lose this perspective.
The perspective of talking and understanding others from where they are at mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, not just to appease them but to expand self.
When we lose sight of that fact that every person has a different foundation and thus different neurological patterns for how they process and act, we lose sight of the other person.
Not only do we lose sight of the other person but we close down our own growth process but we also step into a space of self-centered. Centered in our own thoughts, feelings, desires, and not willing to open that view to anyone else.
And it’s a common thing in most relationships!!

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Sitting between my current lovers legs as we snuggle back on a beach chair and listen to the ocean.
 
My new kitten walking over with her toy mouse and asking me to play while she dances around in the cutest way.
 
My best friend sharing a funny story or intimacy share with me as we stand chatting before clients.
 
A moment of deep connective sexing where I felt so loved and held that it still brings tears to my eyes
 
The moments that become memories.
 
The memories that become our lives.

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