Men. My beautiful and sweet men.

Most of you have so much going for you!
You really do.

A heart that desire for depth and deeper intimacy with a woman.

You sit in classes and workshops trying to learn all the right ways to please your woman and guide her to a state of ecstasy. You aren’t okay with wham bam thank you ma’am anymore. Read more

Your relationships, all of your relationships, need moderate effort most of the time.
Not 10% and not 100% effort.

I was standing in yoga when the instructor reminded us to engage in a pose with moderate effort.

If we threw 100% then we would not be able to sustain
If we threw out 10% then we would not be stretching and expanding.
And I thought how this relates to our relationships.

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You claim to love it…
You are constantly desiring it…
But have you ever thought what “it” is???
And if you are aligned to what you claim “it” to be..

SEX
The thing so many want, think about, and do… But don’t have a clear understanding of WHY and even if they have a why.. often they are not living in alignment with that why. Read more

Ladies!!! Ladies! Let’s Chat…
 
Recently I’ve had a slew of truly beautiful men come into my office and share similar statements and experiences.
 
Experiences where women are not willing to take any time on their male partners.
Not kissing them.
Not touching them.
Not stroking them.
 
Zero Foreplay!!!
Zero Pre-Work Connection!!!

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He’s a bit of a fixer-upper!

Have you ever watched the children’s movie “Frozen”.

I have but I’ve never listened intently to some of the words of one song.

While camping the other day this song came on and I recognized it as a song from Frozen. I quickly became quite concerned about some of the words.

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I had a lover tell me once years ago when I was having a low period in my sex…

That all I needed was to let him blindfold me…. tie me up… open the door to a hotel room… and let as many random guys as he deemed fit come in and use my body.

THIS was supposedly what was going to fix me!
THIS was his answer to fixing the fact that I wasn’t feeling connected to my body.
THIS was how I was meant to move through energetic blockages. Read more

You dilute sex to a mere 30 seconds of high-intensity

Until you change your beliefs about your sex, your sex won’t change!

And one of these B.S. beliefs is that sex is about the finish line
About a 30-second climax that is edgy and highly intense
About that peak that leaves us pulling away moments afterwards because it goes from….

High pleasure to TOO MUCH…STOP!
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I demand better than “normal” and the issue is that you don’t!
 
This week I have heard the word “normal” thrown out over and over again!
 
And the term has been used every time as a justification and a way to remove one’s guilt for not doing what needs to be done.
A settling.
An acceptance of the unacceptable.
 
Or actually it might be acceptable to you but it’s not acceptable for me or for my tribe.

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