We talk of spiritual moments as if they are always warm and cozy moments, where we feel doused in loving energy, and our world is glorious… with butterflies dancing out of our backsides! 😂

And sometimes this is exactly what a deeply spiritual moment or message feels like to us.

It can be those moments where we are so in need of light and love that it comes to us at just the right moment! Read more

Sitting between my current lovers legs as we snuggle back on a beach chair and listen to the ocean.
 
My new kitten walking over with her toy mouse and asking me to play while she dances around in the cutest way.
 
My best friend sharing a funny story or intimacy share with me as we stand chatting before clients.
 
A moment of deep connective sexing where I felt so loved and held that it still brings tears to my eyes
 
The moments that become memories.
 
The memories that become our lives.

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“I have this, ‘thing’ sexually”, he tells me over a nice dinner.
So, I inquired….
“Well what is your ‘thing’ then?”
Then he glances at the table for a millisecond and then straight into my eyes, “I get really turned on by kicking my subs with steel-toed boots while they are on the ground. I try to be careful not to break any ribs”. Read more

 

Today, I watch as fruit and vegetables were used as some of the best sex toys around!!!

Lol, I ran my yearly Oral Intimacies in-person Workshop (there is a recorded version available on my site)
And for the lab/demo portion of this class we make use of cucumbers and mangos.

Myself and my co-teacher ask each individual to tap into the sensations within their bodies as they both give and receive. Now there is zero touching in this workshop and yet we hear again and again how it was incredibly erotic. Read more

 

Words, Labels, & Definitions of Love can Be Great…
But the power of love isn’t found there!!

The action. The things you feel. The ENERGY.
Thats where it is found. That is what truly matters.

When you are holding your partner in your arms and feel an interconnectedness.

When you watch as your partner steps out of their comfort zone in order to build a deeper moment. Read more

Oversensitivity shuts down our growth in health, racism, and our lives.

Do you know when I get a woman in my office that has been traumatized it is not uncommon for her clit to be so sensitive that she can’t stand to be touched.

Her husband or partner will go in with the gentlest of touches, with love, care, and compassion. Deeply desiring to help…

And she is still in pain and at times she get angry and lashes out at her man. Or she sits and cries and completely shuts down.

Orgasm Blame Game

It’s early evening when I receive the text, and I am relaxing outside and trying to get some work done. I see the name, and I am immediately intrigued because it is rare these days that I see this name on my phone screen. He wants to come over for a little while, and I know that he has plans beyond just chatting. I sit, staring at my phone for a few minutes, pondering my options. On the one hand, I know that I really need and desire some focused attention. On the other hand, I have some major emotional blocks with him right now and am still holding a traumatic event in my body. I have the choice to lean into the vulnerable here or to shut down and completely shut him out. I finally decide to step into vulnerability and see if I can allow my own opening with his help. Read more

?I F*cked Up! ?

Have you ever had one of those moments when you have to make a quick decision?
Those moments when you wonder, “Should I go left or right here?”

Knowing that a small ‘insignificant’ decision could really alter your course dramatically
You don’t know logically how a small decision could change things but you feel it in your bones.
It’s one of those moments the world just stands still and waits.