I wanted to want to have sex! 

The other evening I was headed out to an event with a man I’ve been dating. I put on clothes that made me feel good and prior to leaving I made sure my home was in okay shape to have him back to connect after the event. 
Since he was heading over to my area of town to see the show I figured that would be easiest! 

I wanted to have sex with this man. I turned over the thoughts in my mind. And they were some naughty delicious thoughts.

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Whether I am working with my clients, talking to friends and family, or doing my own personal work, one thing we at some point must see is how our relationships are our mirrors. There are mirrors that make us smile with joy at the beauty within. There are mirrors that make us shameful, fearful, and angry. There are mirrors that we try to cover up and mirrors that we cling too but in the end all our relationships mirror us in some way.

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I’m getting my hair done and it feels great. I love the feel of the brush being dragged through my hair and the small tug. I love the sensation having my hair brushed and played with brings throughout my body. I love the focused attention that I am receiving and getting to just let go for a few minutes while I revel in the beauty of the touch and feeling of being pampered.

It’s one thing to pamper self. I’m a huge advocate and always tell clients to engage in self care. BUT there is something magical about another person pampering you. There is just a feeling of surrender and relaxing that happens when you allow someone else to step up and help you enjoy the moment. There is a receptivity that is impossible when pampering self and a level of a gifting. Read more

Orgasm Blame Game

It’s early evening when I receive the text, and I am relaxing outside and trying to get some work done. I see the name, and I am immediately intrigued because it is rare these days that I see this name on my phone screen. He wants to come over for a little while, and I know that he has plans beyond just chatting. I sit, staring at my phone for a few minutes, pondering my options. On the one hand, I know that I really need and desire some focused attention. On the other hand, I have some major emotional blocks with him right now and am still holding a traumatic event in my body. I have the choice to lean into the vulnerable here or to shut down and completely shut him out. I finally decide to step into vulnerability and see if I can allow my own opening with his help. Read more