Time.
It’s the most precious thing we have
The way in which we choose to use it is important because once it’s gone… it’s gone forever.

Yet many use it carelessly.
Not thinking about how they are giving their lives away to things that not bringing them joy, love, and connection. Things that don’t se their hearts on fire.
And simply not using it to find ways to set their hearts on fire. Read more

You can’t get a woman out of her masculine if you are making her do everything. The feminine requires a lead.

One of the most common things I hear from men is that they desire their woman to be in the feminine. They see thir partners bitchy, hormonal, and not dropping down in the bedroom and look to her asking…

“Why can’t you get into the feminine?”, “Why aren’t you glowy and free flowing like that woman over there?”

Well, there are several reasons for this…

One might just be YOU!!

To the Woman that Isn’t Orgasmic…

Darling, this is a story you’ve been telling way too long. Every woman is orgasmic. Every woman has that fire within that burns in her very core.

Right now it might feel dim and be hard to locate but I promise that it’s there. It’s right there smoldering like an ember about to take flame. Read more

The other day I was having a conversation with a male friend and we were talking about sex, dating, and orgasm.
I had shared that with the current world happenings and being single right now, that I was feeling orgasmically depleted.
 
Then this friend proceeded to stir my anger by stating…
 
“You could have sex anytime you wanted it! Your orgasmic depletion is your own fault”.

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Ladies, stop being too good for the knight and shining armor!

I remember being a little girl and watching/reading fairy tales where the prince would ride in and save the day. The damsel-like princess would hold onto him and they would ride away into the sunset of their happily ever after!

It was beautiful but even as a young girl I knew this was not the case in the real world. I enjoyed pretending but knew these were just stories. Women don’t need to be saved and aren’t helpless. I was, as many of you were, raised to believe in female independence and equality.

But if I’m honest a piece of these stories now and even then was appealing. The masculine riding in and allowing the feminine to surrender. There was a thread in these stories that felt “right”.

 

As a Sex & relationship Coach, it is always interesting interacting with others on my social media accounts because of the ways it shines a light on many of the very reasons we struggle in today’s society with relationships.

You would think that this would only be true of those that grew up since the stir of social media but this is not the case! The dysfunctional relational dynamics across generations becomes very apparent on platforms such as Facebook.

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Your relationships, all of your relationships, need moderate effort most of the time.
Not 10% and not 100% effort.

I was standing in yoga when the instructor reminded us to engage in a pose with moderate effort.

If we threw 100% then we would not be able to sustain
If we threw out 10% then we would not be stretching and expanding.
And I thought how this relates to our relationships.

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You claim to love it…
You are constantly desiring it…
But have you ever thought what “it” is???
And if you are aligned to what you claim “it” to be..

SEX
The thing so many want, think about, and do… But don’t have a clear understanding of WHY and even if they have a why.. often they are not living in alignment with that why. Read more

Ladies!!! Ladies! Let’s Chat…
 
Recently I’ve had a slew of truly beautiful men come into my office and share similar statements and experiences.
 
Experiences where women are not willing to take any time on their male partners.
Not kissing them.
Not touching them.
Not stroking them.
 
Zero Foreplay!!!
Zero Pre-Work Connection!!!

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