If I asked another to describe you…
Asked them about how you show up in this world.
Asked them about how you show love
Asked them about your habits and holdbacks
Asked them about all your beautiful little intricacies
authentic
?Are you REALLY THERE??? ?
I still sit here in gratitude today for yesterday. 
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Yesterday I met my friend to have a yummy lunch, to connect, to celebrate ourselves, our friendship, and to plan coaching world domination… hehe! 
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But as we sat there and connected I had this immense gratitude for my friend. A gratitude that brought tears to my eyes then and has me writing this and still tearing up.
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Yep, I’m a bit of an emotional person!
Although, I was in gratitude not just for the time she was gifting me…because time is our most precious asset. But really her sharing, her excitement, her energy and most of all her presence. Her being really with me in the moment as we talked. Her being with herself as we talked. And today was no different than most of the times when we are spending time stirring up mayhem!
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It really got me thinking about the lack of presence I see in our world today but particularly our lack of presence with each other. Instead of being in the moment. Hearing what the other person has to say and hearing beyond the actual words…. really listening deeper into the message the other person is trying to get across. Words are cheap but the energy and feeling behind them tells us so much.
In our hustle and bustle society we don’t often take the time to really be present enough with the other person… not checking our cellphones… not thinking about our response… not thinking about how we need to go get our kids… but really WITH the other person. We miss out on connecting, supporting, and celebrating with the other person.
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We also miss out on being present with ourselves. Present enough in ourselves to notice the different feelings and sensations coming up in our own bodies…. The excitement, the joy, the jealousy, the sadness, and the fear. All of these being key pieces to learn more about ourselves in relationship.
It is a rare person that can truly hold presence with another person. You know it when someone is truly WITH you. You feel it. You know it at a core level even if they are looking at you, nodding their heads, etc. There is simply an energy!
I know for myself there are times when I am super present in conversation, holding space like a Bad-ass, and yet still connected to myself. Then there are those times when I am having to push against my monkey-mind and ego driven thoughts. These are moments of learning and leaning in a little bit more. When I recognize the disconnection I strive to step into being present a bit more and through whatever is blocking.
My question for you today is how are you showing up in ALL your relationships?
?With kids, lovers, friends, colleagues, clients, etc?
?Where are you struggling to be present?
?Are you listening to their words or are you feeling into their hearts?
No matter the answer…LEAN IN MORE
Bliss REQUIRES Presence!
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I sit there talking to this man and I find a little corner of my heart making space for love towards this man. We chat about a recent date of his, and I laugh with him about his slyness with coming up with amazing adventures. I love hearing about one of his lovers, specifically because it fills me with joy to know that he is happy and to see the beautiful relationship he has built. I am new and so stand in awe of the magnificent love. However, in his haste to get things out of his mouth and find clarity within himself, he stumbles over his words and unbeknownst to him, they come out all wrong. I suddenly try to eradicate that little piece of my heart that was just implanted with love… but it won’t budge. My heart clenches, my chest aches, and my eyes struggle to hold back the tears in the dark. I lose touch with everything being said and have a vivid image of my heart bleeding all over this beautiful bedroom. He chatters on about general life without realizing I deeply need triage.
I am wearing a sleek black dress, high heel shoes, a pretty garter belt, and stockings. There are no plans of having sex tonight but I did want to feel sexy in my own skin. Most of all, I wanted him to think I looked beautiful. When I walk into the room, I want his jaw to fall open and for him to have a dozen fantasies cross his mind. Throughout the night, I tease with playful statements. Nothing. Nada! He doesn’t see me sitting in this car, wearing my heart on my sleeve, and wanting to be acknowledged. Really, for him to see that I am hurting and that a smile or hug from him could fix a world of hurt. I am craving to be seen in this moment! The more I am ignored, the more my Ego begins to make up stories about what he is thinking. I don’t verbalize it but mentally I scream… “SEE ME!”
This is an article was written earlier this year for another forum but I find as I read through it that the message still holds true. Authenticity has been coming up in both my clients lives and in my own personal life. Living authentically isn’t always the easiest path but it is the most rewarding!