I’m a Sex Coach, Not a Sex Worker

I’m a Sex Coach, Not a Sex Worker

Addison Bell

As of late, I have been under a bit of scrutiny from several people about my sex coaching business, everywhere from friends to family to other colleagues who all have misconstrued beliefs about what sex coaches do. Honestly, I am not shocked because the truth is that sex coaching is fairly new in mainstream consciousness. If you met ten sex coaches, they would also all have a slightly different way of coaching and different elements that are included in this coaching. Even in my local area, I can think of several sex coaches, and every single one of us approaches coaching in a different manner. Some use more direct talking methods, some incorporate more spiritual practices, some use more straight education, and others are more experiential. This is on top of the fact that sex is still a taboo topic in our society, so it’s no wonder that I get both horrified and intrigued looks when I share with others the career I am so passionate about.

There’s a vast variety of questions and assumptions that people have when hearing that myself and my fellow colleagues are sex coaches. That being said, the one that comes up the most is, “Are you a prostitute? So you have sex with your clients?”

I do not have sex with my clients. Again, I do not have sex with my clients! And one more time since people struggle to hear this one, I DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH MY CLIENTS! I have zero judgments against individuals who choose to make a living via prostitution. In my life, I have known several women who have been sex workers to survive and, unfortunately, were forced to do so illegally due to our current laws. It makes me very happy to see places like Vegas that are trying to take the oldest career known to man and make it safer for both the client and the sex worker. Sex is a normal and natural pleasure afforded to us as humans that keeps us healthy and vibrant. It’s not my place to say if someone needs or desires to pay someone to have these needs met because, honestly, not everyone is lucky enough to have a committed partner. I believe in sex work when done in a safe and consensual manner.

That being said, I am not a prostitute. All the sex coaches I know (and I know quite a few) and I have the policy that they do not have intercourse or perform or receive oral sex from clients. I have written that on my website in several places and tell clients when I first meet them that although I am helping people with sex, this does not mean I am having sex with them. Yet, it is a question I get asked almost weekly. And it is actually one that has provided my colleagues and me with some funny stories.

One day, I was doing an initial Tantric mindfulness session—which includes some meditation, breathing, and Kundalini activation—with a brand new client. My sex coaching practice was somewhat new, and as he felt his sexual energy activate, he opened his eyes, looked right at me, and said, “I’ve decided that I want to practice having Tantric sex, and you love Tantric sex, and so you’re going to have Tantric sex with me next time.” I lifted one eyebrow and reminded him of all the different times we had discussed boundaries and how sex is not a part of sex coaching. He became desperate and began gyrating his hips to “show me” how good he would be at this practice. I worked incredibly hard at not bursting into hysterics at that moment, and once I had composed myself, I set some limits with him, and unfortunately, he chose not to have any more sessions with me after that initial session. It is definitely a story that I will always remember and one that has provided me with vital learning lessons—no matter how much I state what I DON’T do, there will always be people that don’t want to hear it.

Different practitioners have different boundaries surrounding the level of touch, if any, and also the nature of what happens in sessions. But unless it is specifically stated that we are offering sexual surrogacy, then they most likely are not offering to have sex with their clients. And honestly, even many sex surrogates don’t actually have intercourse with clients.

That being said, am I going to try to help stir some sexual energy? Yes! Our sexual energy (Kundalini energy) is what keeps us alive, what you tap into during many yoga practices, and what gives us as humans much of our drive. I view our sexual energy as a major tool in manifesting the lives we want, as the spiritual connection we are looking for, and as a way to take the connection within ourselves and in relationships to a deeper place. However, this energy can be stirred simply by breathing! I, personally, am not just a sex coach but actually first and foremost a Tantric practitioner who utilizes these principles in my practice. This still does not mean I am having sex with my clients!

In our society, and especially in the Bible belt, many practices are shunned without a true and honest understanding. People allow their ignorance to speak first without asking questions. Just like sex coaching is not as it appears, neither is the practice of Tantra, which is not solely about sex but instead about weaving our energy throughout life. The aspects that are sexual are about bringing greater awareness and honor into our sex lives and using this awareness to bring us closer to our spiritual source, ourselves, and our partners. I know having honor and true worship during sex is a foreign concept to many in the Western world, where porn, objectification, and hookup culture are rampant, but this is the true nature of Tantra and what I teach in my sex coaching practice. So I view the use of Tantra as important in not only my sex coaching but also coaching of any kind because, at the end of the day, most humans desire more fulfilling and happier lives.

As a sex coach, I want you to be able to dig deeper into your own feelings, thoughts, and beliefs surrounding sex. I want you to learn to connect with your own body and your partner’s body in new and exciting ways. I want you to experience energy in sessions that is orgasmic … but not necessarily have what is typically seen as orgasm/climax in session.

So if I’m not having sex with you, then what am I doing?

I’m holding a space for you to talk about your shame, your desires, your sexual difficulties. I’m helping you reawaken your energy and passion while creating the life you have always dreamed of having. I am educating you on chakras, your genitals, your partner’s genitals, breathing, orgasm, and basically anything you can think of in regards to sex. I am helping you feel more into your body and recognize that your sexual energy, when used throughout your life, will provide you with a new level of energy and vitality and the ability to attack your life.

Honestly, yes, there will be dildos, “pussy pillows,” lube, and other sex toys for demonstrations, so if this offends you, then I suggest you not come into my office. There will most definitely be words used that may make you blush and conversations that make you squirm a little, and that’s okay. I’m not here to have sex with you, but I am here to reintroduce you to your sex.

My work is done mostly with your brain, your heart, and your soul, not your genitals!

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Crossroads of Fear

Crossroads of Fear

Addison Bell

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I stand here today with a pretty important decision to make in my life. The universe has given me clear signs that I am at a crossroads, and straddling the fence is no longer an option. Although we never know for certain where any path will lead us, one of the paths I am currently facing is more known. I’ve journeyed on the path in the past, and in all honestly, this path makes people around me more comfortable and, if I’m honest with myself, more comfortable for me since I don’t have to face the discomfort of others’ judgments. But it is missing the passion I desire, and there will be pieces of me that I would have to compromise, contain, and shove into little boxes with pretty bows.

The other path is unknown because I’m creating it as I go, and that’s scary! There are more roots to trip on and branches to get hung up on. This path will require me to let go of safety nets, sit with others’ judgments of me, and continue to do deep personal work. This path is exciting and feels more freeing and in alignment with my spirit. In theory, I am always in favor of the things that set your soul on fire, but that’s a much easier decision when you are not standing right in the fire with the choice to jump out or sit in the flames and hope they don’t swallow you whole.

My soul knows the path I intend on taking. It knows where I am called to go. Yet despite all my personal growth work, my faith that the universe has me, and my knowledge that there is a purpose in all that happens to me, I still am human and fear still can creep into my consciousness. As much as my ego would like to pretend that I am just so amazingly enlightened that I don’t fall into fear, the truth is that I strive to live and also write authentically. So here I am—authentic, fearful, and yet still with an internal compass that I’m following.

I know I am not alone in having felt this fear, and honestly, if we aren’t a little scared of our lives, then we aren’t living big enough! So what do we do in times like this to push through? How do we move through our fear instead of getting caught in it and having it hold us hostage?

  • Journal or Talk with Someone: Some people are internal processors, others are external processors, and some (like me) need a bit of both to work through things. When we journal or talk things through, it allows us to hear ourselves and spot the faulty belief systems and stories that we are telling ourselves. We often discover new aspects of ourselves or the situation when we take the time to truly process what is going on in our heads. When journaling, it’s important just to let go, write, and not get caught up in saying the “right” thing or overthinking. If you are more of an external processor, then find someone who isn’t going to try to “fix” things but will give you enough space to hear yourself and even reflect back what they are hearing you say. Just be careful to choose someone who is truly going to be supportive of your process.
  • Meditate: Whether it be a more open meditation or guided meditation, find a way to really connect with your soul and spirit. Listen for messages from spirit guides, angels, or ascended masters, and also rely on your intuitive knowing. We so often second guess ourselves when our spirits are giving us a clear direction. Taking the time to connect with your true essence will bring a level of peace to the situation. When you are quiet in your divine energy, then there can be no fear, sadness, or ego because we are pure love and light in this place.
  • Breathe: I know, I know. It’s really simplistic but helpful. Focusing on deep breathing will clear negative energies out of our systems and allow for new oxygen and energy circulation. Sometimes, taking a second to breathe gives us just enough space from our thoughts to move through emotions.
  • Don’t Resist: Instead of fighting with your fear or other difficult emotions, acknowledge their presence, thank the emotion, determine what its message is, but then allow it to flow through. Easier said than done, but it is important because we are putting too much attention on the feelings if we try to resist. As the saying goes, “Where attention goes, energy flows.”

I know the above tools work. I am not going to suggest to my clients or readers that they do something that I am unwilling to do myself, and so I will be relying on these little gems in coming weeks. I have put these tools out there for you to try and practice. We can’t make our emotions or humanness disappear, but we can find ways to be in a better vibration and have a greater sense of peace deep in our hearts as we move through them. From one human to another, Namaste!

Addison offers sessions to help you manifest your goals and use your sexual energy to move past the blocks you have in your life. Book a session TODAY at www.addisonbell.net/contact

 

Orgasm, Orgasmic Energy, and Living an Orgasmic Life!

Orgasm, Orgasmic Energy, and Living an Orgasmic Life!

Addison Bell

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Orgasm. What do you think of when you hear this word?

Most people hear this word and equate it with sex, which is and is not the case. Orgasm can happen during sex, but it is also a life energy and a way of living. Let’s break it down to help clear up all the misconceptions that are out there surrounding the elusive word.

Orgasm or Climax:

In sex, when someone hits the highest peak and has 5–30 seconds of intense peak sensation, it usually is labeled an orgasm. What they are actually speaking about is the climax. Orgasm is all the peaks and valleys of sensation during sex and can, at times, have moments of intense sensation (climax), but is more like a wave and less of a metaphorical cliff that someone falls off sexually. There are numerous different types of sexual orgasms—skin, g-spot, emotional, clitoral, breast, spiritual, etc. The types of orgasms vary, and as we learn more about the human body and sexuality in general, this variation increases. Women will often tell me that they are not “multi-orgasmic,” but the truth is that we are ALL orgasmic and have the ability to have multiple orgasms or, in truth, ride different waves of the same orgasm for seconds to hours.

That all being said, in my business, when talking about orgasm as a sex coach, I am often talking about the state of orgasm or orgasmic energy rather than a peak or specific sexual event.

Orgasmic Energy:

When talking about orgasmic energy, we are talking about being connected to our bodies and the energy that is flowing in our bodies. This energy could be in the way you have a thrilling sensation when you take that first sip of coffee in the morning or how your cheeks flush when you are embarrassed. Orgasmic energy can be present anywhere—church, the grocery store, work, anywhere! Orgasm does not require nudity, sex, or even touch. Orgasm is a state of being.

To give a quick example, I’m sitting here writing this article and eating a clementine. I am connected with the pure energy this food is giving off but also with the way it caresses my tongue, the sweetness that escapes its moist skin, and the touch of sourness that sends a thrill down my spine. I am connected to how my sacral chakra alights with the consumption of this delicious fruit. I am in a true state of orgasmic energy.

 Connecting with your orgasmic energy requires you to begin to get very present in your body and life. This state of being is one of the things I enjoy helping people discover in my business—how to really reconnect with their physical selves and begin to recognize all the yummy sensations that are ever-present in the body. This work usually requires the process of learning about your chakras and meridian points on your body and taking conscious time to tap into them during meditation or other tantric/energetic practices.

Orgasmic Life:

Then there is having an Orgasmic Life and living from the place of your orgasmic energy all the time. This experience is when you are reveling in all the little ups and downs of your life and are in tune with your physical, emotional, and spiritual energies and integrate them. Having an orgasmic life is when you choose to live in gratitude for all the moments given to you by the universe and choose to flow with them instead of resisting. An orgasmic life is not sitting in a life where you have a million tolerations and are just getting by but instead jumping towards what you desire, and you begin to learn to surf the waves of your emotions. It is finding things in your life that turn you on (sex, travel, adventure, family) and doing exactly that, throwing yourself head first into the passion you feel when you are engaged in these things. It’s living in the moment and recognizing when you are stopping your own pleasure.

For me, living my orgasmic life is continuing to work in a career that I love and actually doesn’t feel like work but instead feels fun and exciting. It is having colleagues to collaborate with who bring new ideas, excitement, and joy to my already passionate career. It’s being able to experience love in all its many forms and sit in the beautiful orgasmic energy of spirit. It is feeling a friend’s arms around we while I cry, and I can melt into the energy. It’s the soft brush of a lover’s lips that sends goosebumps over my skin. It’s travel and laughing with friends and continuing to reach for the life of my dreams while being in a state of gratitude for the life I currently have.

That is orgasmic energy and living an orgasmic life. And that, ladies and gents, is what is truly ORGASM!

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How I Lost 25lbs and Gained Sexual Empowerment Through Tantra

How I Lost 25lbs and Gained Sexual Empowerment Through Tantra

Addison Bell

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From the time I was 10 years-old until I was in my twenties, I fought a bloody battle with my own body, which manifested as anorexia and bulimia. I spent 15 years in what can only be described as a hell of my own body but more than anything, a place where I was a prisoner of my own mind. I was blessed, however, to get help and eventually fully recover. I learned to come to a place of peace with my body and formed an essence of neutrality. I no longer put effort into trying to lose weight because I knew this was a slippery slop to relapse. Through the years of recovery it became apparent that I needed to work on my past sexual trauma that was keeping me stuck in not only a war against my body but in many areas of my life, especially my sexuality. I would later learn that most individuals with eating disorders also have some difficulties with their sexuality in some form or fashion. I went to therapy religiously and pushed myself to open up internal boxes that I had bolted shut. The deeper I dug the more disgusted I found for my sexuality and the more my body shut down physically.

I found myself fully recovered from my eating disorder but still struggling with my body in terms of my sexuality, and simply talking about it wasn’t fixing the physical problems that had developed. No matter how many times I sat in therapy sessions my therapist wasn’t able to help me make penetration hurt any less, nor was my doctor even able to help for that matter. Nor were they able to take away the extreme panic, the flashbacks, or the nausea I would have when a date became more sensual. So, I decided it was time to seek out another way to work through my problems surrounding sexuality. I had heard about practitioners that did hands on work and so I began Googling until I came across what would later become my Tantric Sex Coach. It took almost a year before I actually met her and agreed to do the work that was necessary for my own healing.

When I began seeing her I was completely frozen in my body, had very little body awareness, reported zero sexual desire, and although I was not overweight I held an extra 25lbs on my petite frame as a protective shield. I exercised and ate a generally balanced diet, and at the time I was at what clinicians called my “ideal body weight.” Session after session I dug into my beliefs surrounding sex, my desires, and my body and began peeling away layers of distorted beliefs. Then we began moving on to more experiential tantric sessions where I began discovering an energy in my body that I had never noticed. I began feeling the beginnings of arousal and desire and started to feel my entire body for the first time since I was a child. My physical body began to relax through tantric practices of breathing, relaxing, and being mindful of my “Kundalini” (sexual) energy.

The first time I had sex after beginning to study and integrate Tantra, I found that I was able to relax enough that I wasn’t screaming in pain, whereas in the months prior, inserting a tampon was painful. The other thing I began noticing, was that as I peeled away negative belief systems through the experiential processes, my body began unfolding as well. All of a sudden my waist began to become more slender, my hips took on a different curve, and my face went from being rounded to thin and elongated. I was in my late twenties but my body started changing in ways that I can only compare to puberty!

From my years of working in mental health, my degree in psychology, and training in Bioenergetics I knew that oftentimes our physical bodies are representations of the lives we have lived. (For more information see “The Body Keeps Score”). This mental knowledge began to play out right in front of me when I looked in the mirror, and it took me by surprise.

As I stated earlier, I did not believe in dieting and I was not attempting to lose weight but clothes that were once tight became loose and then began falling off . The more Tantra got me in touch with my body the more I was able to tune in and listen to what it desired in regards to food and exercise. I was able to savor every morsel of chocolate instead of eating a whole candy bar and not enjoying its taste. I was able to crave fruits and vegetables and the energy they provided my body. I did not eat them just because they were “healthy.” I ate fruits and vegetables because they were what my body wanted. The feelings I had of disgust at my body and sexuality, that used to induce nausea, was no longer present.

I began enjoying the movements of my body more, because for once, I felt really good and was literally not lugging around pounds of trauma. Sex was fun and lasted longer and longer because I was enjoying the dance and movement of the intimacy. I began having orgasms that shook my whole body for hours. I would leave one of my lovers, and my stomach muscles would still be rippling from the energy of the previous sex session. I would awake the next morning feeling like I had spent 2 hours at the gym. For the first time in my life I would walk, dance, or engage in other movements just because it brought me pleasure.

I began to love my body more for whatever it looked like through the practice of tantra. Tantra translates as “weave” and this is what I started to do with my sexuality and my body. A big piece of tantra is learning to honor, and one of the things we honor is the inner “God/Goddess” in everyone. So I began taping into that divinity of my own spirit. I developed new belief systems surrounding why I was here on this earth and in this physical body. I found a beauty within that made me want to take care of my myself as a whole. I started to understand that our thoughts manifest our world; for example, if you focus on being “fat,” that is exactly what your reality becomes.

I find it amazing that, as soon as I truly “let myself go” my body took on the shape that I had literally almost killed myself for only years prior! With the help of Tantra I have found a fun and orgasmic sex life but also a true connection with my body.

Now as a Sex/Relationship Coach & Tantric Practitioner, I feel blessed to be able to help people gain the same benefits that I had received when I got into Tantra. I revel in the changes I see physically and energetically in clients as they begin to do this work. It is extraordinary to see people release things that have clung to their spirits like mud. I feel incredibly honored to be able to walk through pain, tears, shame, nightmares and joy with my clients the way that some outstanding people have done for me.

So although I will NEVER give dieting advice, here is a review of some elements that you can include in your life to help you find a body and life closer to what you desire:

  • Stop focusing on your weight in a negative way! The more you focus on how unhappy you are with your body the more you will tell the Universe that this is the body you want. If you think you’re fat you will be fat! Instead focus on aspects about your life and body that you enjoy.
  • Become more mindful of your body in diet and exercise. When you are eating, make sure you are focusing more on the taste of the food and the energy it gives off. When you are exercising, focus on how your body is enjoying the movement. Don’t deprive your body from foods that it really wants. If you want chocolate, then eat it – but eat it mindfully.
  • Have more SEX! There are many health benefits of good sex, but one of them is weight loss and toning. This will only work if you are having deep, connective sex, otherwise you will not be releasing the correct chemicals into your brain, and your orgasms won’t be deep enough to give you the full benefit. This goes for men and women.
  • Start working with a Tantric practitioner to release stored traumas from your body. When we are carrying around negative energy we are simply not able to live our best lives. Studies have shown that we can also physically carry these traumas through fat stores, cancers and other physical representations.

Reach out to Addison Bell, Sex & Relationship Coach and Tantric Practitioner, TODAY to find help in creating a better life and body for yourself!

www.addisonbell.net/contact

This is When Women Fake Orgasms The Most- Addison’s Notes

This is When Women Fake Orgasms The Most- Addison’s Notes

Addison Bell

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by Kendal Williams (featured on Consumer Health Digest)

“There I stand looking in the mirror as I brush my teeth. I am noticing how frumpy I look and exhausted I feel at this hour but, even more so I find myself frustrated and overwhelmed with the thoughts of everything that I had needed to get taken care of and never found the time for that will now move to my things to do list tomorrow. My husband walks in the bathroom behind me saying something that I cannot really hear over the brushing and swishing of my oral care. I spit in the sink and ask him what he said. He rattles something back about the day and shutting down the house for bed. I pick up a washcloth and bend over to wash my face, my husband comes up behind me, grabs hold of my hips and squeezes, then slaps my bottom and gives me a look.

I can tell that he wants sex. Lord, I don’t! My body is tired and my mind is wandering and stressed about the day to come. I feel no turn on in this moment but look at my husband as he pulls his underwear off and gets into bed. Suddenly I feel like I need to do this one last chore of the day and “take care of his needs.” I figure that if I go along with it, even act like I am into it or want it that he will come a little quicker and I can be asleep in the next 15 minutes or so. Continue reading…

Addison’s Notes:

After reading this article I felt the need to share with my readers. The whole article is on point in regards to what many women experience but the point that really stuck out to me was the element of “duty sex”. The author is correct that almost all women will have duty sex sometime in their lives and most have it frequently. We as women often feel an obligation to please others and this includes out partners even if we are not in the mood. I know I personally have had duty sex in my life and I don’t know a women that has not faked an orgasm to just be done with it or to make her man feel better. These usually are those moments that put distance and resentment into a relationship because deep down the women is going against her authentic self. It takes courage in owning your truth to turn you man down for sex and it takes a man really holding onto his Ego when turned down for sex. Though if he really loves her then he will understand and in turn if she loves him she won’t be pretending in such an intimate and connective act.

Another element that is important that the article brings to light is being present during sex. If we are not present in sex we are stealing pleasure not only from ourselves but from our partner. The most amazing sex happens when both partners are in the moment and wanting to be having sex. I could write a novel just on the topic written about in the article but believe the author says it best so please take a few minutes to read!

 

Become Tied Up & Twisted In Your Dreamgirl

Become Tied Up & Twisted In Your Dreamgirl

Addison Bell

 

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If you know me, then you know I adore music and have different artists for every mood. Music inspires my body and soul, and today, I am in a very soulful mood. I lie here in the grass on a beautiful spring day as the sun shines through my strawberry blonde hair and onto my pale white skin. Then my music library shuffles to Dave Matthews Band and the song “Dreamgirl” begins my turn-on, and then continues with “Crash Into Me.” Both of which make my soul sing with desire and orgasmic energy. It feels very fitting for this divine moment. I start singing along and thinking about how EVERY woman should have at least one man, if not more, in her life that looks at her this way. I close my eyes and dream of one of my lovers sitting next to me and staring at me with a mischievous boyish grin of desire and hope. Taking in not only the sun reflecting off of my body, but also looking deep into my soul to see all the beautiful little messy parts of me that he adores. It brings a beautiful smile to my face. I start to dream of my “Dream-man” where we continually and playfully ‘crash’ together! Chasing after one another in an animalistic playful way that is also sensual, where we are eating each other up, and can’t get enough at that moment.

Every woman should be looked at with this intense love and passion! Every woman should be considered a divine forest of intricacies that is to be discovered and devoured. Where they are viewed as some beautiful work of art that frequently hear how they turn their man on physically and emotionally. Every woman should hear how their man gets “tied up and twisted’ when thinking about their woman’s body. Where they are being chased by their man and are viewed as the most amazing dream where a man continually wants to dive deeper and deeper into her body and soul, and also where she sees all this intense desire in his eyes when he looks at her.

I meet with so many women that hate themselves and all the little imperfections that create their divine uniqueness. As a woman myself, I get it and can’t say that I love every single aspect of myself every moment of the day, but as women, we should feel like our lovers are reveling in all those little pieces. I am all for women learning to love and embrace themselves, and so this does not take the responsibility off of the woman for loving herself, but a divine masculine has the ability to show his Goddess even deeper levels of her own divinity.

In order to reach those depths of divinity, however, she needs someone to “hold” her and not just physically, but also emotionally hold space for her to open. This means beautiful orgasmic moments along with moments of tears, laughter, and if she’s anything like me, sometimes a great big mixture of the two at once. It will be like watching the most beautiful volcano erupt over and over again the deeper you take her. However, this requires a man to be in his divine masculine energy where she can fully trust and allow herself to go to these beautiful depths. When a woman is in this place, you can see the energy radiating off of her being, and her beauty seems to be increased tenfold. She is sending out love and openness into the world and bringing you right along with her on the journey.

Many men talk about wishing their woman was more playful, but you may need to help her drop into that playfulness. Women on a primal level were made to be chased, and men were meant to be our pursuers. Men should be looking at their woman like she is the most divine prize to be won over and over again, and should be tapping into their most primal instincts as men. Every time you have sex with a woman, you should be discovering her like it’s the very first time because, honestly, you have never truly had sex with this version of her before. Women are constantly changing and never the same and so explore her, devour her, hold her so close that she can surrender to not only you but herself.

Throughout daily life, I often hear comments about how we should not be “objectifying” women. I totally agree that women are people to be appreciated for more than their bodies. However, with these messages, I feel, as a society, we have turned into a place where men feel wrong or perverse for appreciating, complimenting, or being aroused by the feminine form. This is a grave misfortune because the female form is divine and is meant to be honored and appreciated.

I want to hear how a man finds pleasure in the curve of my breast or the sway of my hips. Just as much as I savor when a lover tells me that he enjoys my youthful spirit and how my eyes portray my caring heart. All of these things make up me in my divine feminine and, ultimately, who I am as a whole person… physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Compliments may be difficult for a woman based upon learned programming, but a woman in tune with herself will revel in these statements. The key is to complement a woman just for the pure pleasure of sharing your pleasure with her and not in order to simply convince her to engage in sexual play. Goddesses are meant to be worshipped just for the pure fact that they are each uniquely and divinely beautiful and in turn, a Goddess who feels worshipped will worship her god!

CALL TO MEN

Play with her; arouse her body and her mind. Fuck her wide open physically and emotionally and watch her become your Dreamgirl. Chase her! Connect to your masculine so she can connect to her feminine. Allow yourself to get unabashedly lost in your thoughts of her mind and body. Tell her how you love her and all the beauty you see deep within her. And allow her to wrap you up in the playful chains of her divine energy. Never get complacent and take her divinity for granted. Continue to hunt to learn every little inch of her and then start all over again to rediscover her day-in and day-out.

CALL TO WOMEN

Don’t settle for anything else than being ravished. Learn to let him in and drop your masculine walls that have been built up through trauma and toil. See yourself as a Dreamgirl, and he will begin to see you that way too. Play with daydreams in your head, listen to music that set you on fire, and explore each and every part of your own body and soul. Allow yourself to surrender into divine moments of bliss. Let him worship you!

 

Need help learning to own your Divine Masculine/Feminine? Help on how to arouse her fully and completely? Or find ways to ‘spice’ things up in the bedroom? Reach out to www.addisonbell.net/contact to work with me TODAY!

Musical Inspiration:

“Dreamgirl”- Dave Matthews Band

“Crash Into Me”- Dave Matthews & Tim Reynolds