I apparently have commitment issues!

Recently I’ve been told by no less than three people close to me that I have commitment issues.

Which obviously led this Virgo to psychoanalyze self and the idea of “commitment issues”

And the answer is that YES to the average person I can see how this could be true.
And NO it’s not an issue… it’s me being authentic and in integrity.

So I share this for my peeps that might relate and might feel the same way. Those that have been told they have commitment issues. Or those that have felt like they’ve been forced to commit to ANYTHING in their life!

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You have to own your Shiz…
But then you have to allow others to own their shiz too!
 
Lately I’ve seen a pattern with clients and those in my life. Beautiful and expansive souls that are wanting to better themselves, with the biggest and most beautiful hearts.
 
They see how they are manifesting their current reality
They see how they still have inner work to do
They see how their wounds are holding them back
And they are healing in fabulous ways…
 
But then they look to the people in their lives and begin taking responsibility for everything going on in their relationship. Letting the others off the hook of their part in the relationship and the other parties responsibility to deal with their own demons. Making consistent excuses and thus not truly loving someone in the manner that creates change.
 
We often hear how it is wrong to blame others in our lives and how our life is our responsibility. I stand by this statement and at the end of the day we are the ones that need to look at our lessons, missteps, and growth. We call in our realities and can choose to change our reality.
 
Though blaming self for everything going on with everyone else is just as egotistical. It is the introverted ego that wants to have power. It is taking God’s business and your business and turning it into MY business.
 
It is often believed that we are loving on someone by making consistent excuses for them but this is the furthest thing from the truth. This only enables the other person to blame outwards, to not looking at their own work, and also it keeps from have honest and loving conversations that will inevitably grow that other person.
 
This is not to say that if someone is having a challenging time or situation that we can extend grace but there is grace and then there is taking on others shiz.
 
Usually this is based on past learnings and attachment styles for childhood and not clearing these things within self. We are always a work in progress… ALWAYS!
 
And so it is imperative that we not only give others grace but that we give ourselves that same level of grace.
And this grace starts with not picking up other people’s shiz and placing it in our own laps. We each have enough shiz of our own and don’t need anyone elses!
 
It’s important to see and also appreciate where you are still growing and healing. To flow your vibration upwards and allow yourself to make different choices that support your desired life… but also it’s important to know you will never be “done” with your growth and that it’s okay to take time to just live and not fix.
 
It’s important that we also give others the gift of dealing with their shiz. Empowering them to own where they still need work and to do that work.
 
Still potentially allow the coming together of two souls from the place of never being “done” and utilizing each other for the beauty of the lessons that emerge in the relationship. But you don’t do anyone any favors by always taking on another’s shiz.
 
You take yours and I’ll take mine…
And we can love each other from the place of constant transformation!
 
Go Recover Your Life… your passion, your joy, YOURSELF!
 
Love, Light, & Blessings,
Addison
 
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