When we have kids or are around kids, it’s pretty common sense that if they ask a question or aren’t understanding a perspective, that we will talk at “their level”.
As a coach, I do this daily with clients because while pushing my clients to grow, I also recognize that they are all at different stage in their lives. More than that though, I realize that their experiences and foundations are different.
Though in my daily life with lovers, family, and friends. Sometimes I make efforts too come at those I love with the same understanding and at other times…
Well let’s just say that I lose this perspective.
The perspective of talking and understanding others from where they are at mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, not just to appease them but to expand self.
When we lose sight of that fact that every person has a different foundation and thus different neurological patterns for how they process and act, we lose sight of the other person.
Not only do we lose sight of the other person but we close down our own growth process but we also step into a space of self-centered. Centered in our own thoughts, feelings, desires, and not willing to open that view to anyone else.
And it’s a common thing in most relationships!!

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Sexual Trauma.
It sticks with you… for life.
You can work through it and still you can come back around and need to heal it at a new level.
Trauma changes the brain for good.

Changing the very fabric of who we are through experience but also through how our nervous system interacts with the world.

Recently a past trauma has reemerged in my body.
Spirit and my body are ready to work through it and heal at a next level and so it is making itself known once again to my awareness.

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Never good enough for anyone!
You constantly hear all the ways that you aren’t living up to others spoken and unspoken expectations of you.
 
Not good enough at work
Not good enough at your romantic relationship
Not good enough at your friendships
Not good enough at ANYTHING it feels like!

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We talk of spiritual moments as if they are always warm and cozy moments, where we feel doused in loving energy, and our world is glorious… with butterflies dancing out of our backsides! 😂

And sometimes this is exactly what a deeply spiritual moment or message feels like to us.

It can be those moments where we are so in need of light and love that it comes to us at just the right moment! Read more

Why child sex trafficking?

This morning I was asked what makes me so passionate about this issue.

I mean more than the average sane person, that finds this disturbing.

In truth even the thought of child sex trafficking makes me want to cry!

I work with women and men every single day and hear horror stories about child sexual abuse and the damage that gas been done to their lives. Read more

I love C*Ck!

I love the soft skin that feels like silk
I love the edges and ridges
I love the way it has a mind of it’s own
I love the responsiveness
I love the taste!

I think they are beautiful and I feel it is my duty to stand here loud and proud and say… I LOVE C*CK! Read more

Oversensitivity shuts down our growth in health, racism, and our lives.

Do you know when I get a woman in my office that has been traumatized it is not uncommon for her clit to be so sensitive that she can’t stand to be touched.

Her husband or partner will go in with the gentlest of touches, with love, care, and compassion. Deeply desiring to help…

And she is still in pain and at times she get angry and lashes out at her man. Or she sits and cries and completely shuts down.

Tantra is not about Sex!
Yet…
You can’t practice tantra without it!
 
Sex is never the true focus point of tantra as a practice.
Though as we connect with our energy and begin to weave our lives together, there is no way to avoid our sex and still be a full and complete person.

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