I laid near friends as we all looked at a sky full of stars.
On this clear autumn evening the view was breathtakingly clear, as the chill was held off by my warm blankets, and everything surrounding me seemed exquisitely vibrant.
Each person shared what they were seeing in the same sky.
One saw the sky arranging into a gorgeous lotus flower.
Another was focused on the shooting stars as they left trails behind.
I simply felt like the stars were coming down to dance with me and there was more stars than sky.
I took a deep breath and relaxed into what I was experiencing.
Though, it was amazing… why share?
You might be thinking “Yay, Addison you saw some stars, big deal!”
But over the last month or so I’ve been very aware, in my personal life and when with my coaching clients, of how each person can be in the same moment and have such drastically different perspectives.
The same scene, conversation, argument, or even energy in a room, is transformed in each of our minds due to our swirling internal experiences.
We may see someone being quiet and assuming they are angry or pouting … when they are internally in chaotic sadness and frustration with self.
We may be feeling disconnected and so tune hardcore into those moments when our friends turn away from us instead of the moments when they are turning towards.
We pop someone a text message and when they don’t respond we think they suddenly don’t care and allow our ego’s to run away with ourselves.
Everything gets filtered through our current emotional space and our past foundations.
It is only the rare few that see the complexity of the human experience and will slow down long enough to re-filter or at least check out experiences. To truly try to think outside the box of what could be going on beyond our internal perceptions.
This is incredibly true and important within relationships.
We often assume what another is thinking and feeling and thus, even if we choose to inquire with our loved one’s it is usually from an ego based place of thinking that we already know the answer…
And sometimes we are correct in some of our filtering of another person’s actions but even then…
Are we truly listening to the explanation or are you simply hearing your validation and running away without truly listening to the other parties explanation of their perception.
Are you listening past the point of your own emotions and experiences. It is hard often to be the witness and truly hod space for another soul without judgment and placing our own feelings on another.
If we can all look at the same sky and see something completely different than what makes us think that we know the “truth” of something as feminine and flowing as emotions or reactions.
We must learn to honor our own perceptions for what they are and also to check our ego within those perceptions. Though we must learn to do the same with others perceptions as well. Allowing them to have their viewpoints and taking out the judgment and simply feel into their experiences.
Because look up at a star filled sky…
Each of my friends perceptions of the sky was beautiful and vivid and incredibly real to them. Listening and honoring their perceptions and reality allowed me to expand my mind and my experience. This didn’t take away any of the power of my own perception of the sky. I could feel and honor and even imagine what they were sharing… and yet could feel the beauty of what I was seeing in the same moment.
Our experiences are what make this world interesting and beautiful and expand us…
Allow your perceptions to expand and practice hitting the pause button on perceptions that take you further away form your core of love.
Hold space for fellow human
Hold space for yourself!
Love, Light, & Blessings,
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