When we have kids or are around kids, it’s pretty common sense that if they ask a question or aren’t understanding a perspective, that we will talk at “their level”.
As a coach, I do this daily with clients because while pushing my clients to grow, I also recognize that they are all at different stage in their lives. More than that though, I realize that their experiences and foundations are different.
Though in my daily life with lovers, family, and friends. Sometimes I make efforts too come at those I love with the same understanding and at other times…
Well let’s just say that I lose this perspective.
The perspective of talking and understanding others from where they are at mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, not just to appease them but to expand self.
When we lose sight of that fact that every person has a different foundation and thus different neurological patterns for how they process and act, we lose sight of the other person.
Not only do we lose sight of the other person but we close down our own growth process but we also step into a space of self-centered. Centered in our own thoughts, feelings, desires, and not willing to open that view to anyone else.
And it’s a common thing in most relationships!!

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In this life it all comes back to us!
 
We enter this world alone and with a unique path and purpose.
And while others often walk with us on the journey at the end of the day this life is ours alone. These other path walkers are part of our purpose and our guides if we choose to accept them.
 
Though this entire life comes back to the world first within each of us.
 
We can only love, and connect at the level to which we have loved, and connected with ourselves. We can only grow and expand by first touching base within and noticing the alignment required.
 
Each and every one of us can go out and live and love from our most authentic selves and we will still at times be misunderstood.

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Raya: “The world’s broken. You can’t trust anyone.” Sisu: “Maybe it’s broken because you don’t trust anyone.”
-Disney’s “Raya & The Last Dragon”

I sat watching this movie in the theatre with some of my favorite munchkins (aka kids).
I watched as the story evolved into a story about trust and conversely a lack of trust in this dystopian land. The way to saving their world came down to trusting those around them.

As the characters stated the above quote…
It really rang true to my heart…

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You have the most beautiful soul.
Look into the depth of your eyes and you will find your core.
Deep down beyond all the drama and trauma.
Past the ego and the protective layers.
 
That is where you are.
That is who you are.
 
This egoic world pulls you this way and that…
Telling you who you are and what you are.
Pointing fingers and taking blame.
Beating up others and ripping apart from self.
 
Allowing the energies around you too slow transform you away from that person beneath the surface that is your truth.

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YOᑌᖇ ᐯOIᑕE Iᔕᑎ’T TᗩᗷOO

You want change and success but you’re scared to speak
You’re afraid to open up to your heart, your soul, and that childlike state deep within, that is a piece of who makes you, YOU.

You choose not to share your voice calling it taboo…
Whether that’s a topic in a relationship, a business idea, or even being you.
Because underneath you think YOU, are the real taboo!

You don’t want to be “too much”, “too crazy”, “too needy”, “too emotional”, “too real”

And so you have crammed yourself into being LESS
Emotion-less
Inspiration-less
Heart-less
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“When we realize that we are all sinners needing forgiveness, it will be easy for us to forgive others.”- Mother Theresa, ‘No Greater Love’
 
The last few days I’ve spent time re-reading and meditating with one of my favorite books (“No Greater Love by Mother Theresa), to tap me into my heart and to Christ Consciousness.
 
The above quote, while simple, is so very true!
 
And more than ever I believe this sentiments on forgiveness to be important to our society.

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Love is Not Equal.
When you love someone it is unique. Unique to your energy, your personality, your lifestyle and that other person.
Yet, so many wish and desire and even tear relationships apart because the love isn’t equal.
How would one even measure such a thing? How to you measure the energy of love?
In roses? In calls/texts made? In time spent? In services provided?
Lately the topic of inequality of love has come up again and again with my clients, family, and friends.
I had a client other day, and then shortly after a friend ask me the same thing…
“Why am I the one that always has to reach out?”

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The things we get used too and no longer accept.

As many have seen on Facebook, Texas and many parts of the Southern US got some severe winter weather.

Now… severe because it happed in the SOUTH.

So, as I sit writing this and watching the snow fall from the sky and look at the very rare site of snow completely covering my grass. I am forced to laugh!

“Man I’ve gotten soft”, I thought to self.

See I grew up in a part of New York where snow was pretty much a weekly occurrence and usually about once a year we would get a blizzard so bad that power would go out for days, and we would trudge off to my neighbors next to snow drifts taller than me. Read more

Love in our lives isn’t…
a sometimes…
a when…
a condition.
Love is a consistent energy that must be vibrationally met and also connected with on consistent basis throughout our day.
Its an energy that we first must plug into within ourselves and within spirit. We must feel this immensity and allow it to fill our very beings and flow through us.
Flowing through us to those in our lives…
NO MATTER WHAT

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Spirituality is uplifting until you use it as a weapon to back bad behaviors.
 
The last few weeks this concept has been stirring in my brain. Not quite fully formed as I fought with myself in perfect Virgo style of wanting to see all sides of a situation.
 
But I also have been in observance mode.
Observance mode of how we use our spiritual tools and concepts to back our negative behaviors…
 
To disconnect from our fellow man
To create even more judgment
To feel superior
And to back our laziness to put true effort into our lives and relationships.

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