Your relationships, all of your relationships, need moderate effort most of the time.
Not 10% and not 100% effort.

I was standing in yoga when the instructor reminded us to engage in a pose with moderate effort.

If we threw 100% then we would not be able to sustain
If we threw out 10% then we would not be stretching and expanding.
And I thought how this relates to our relationships.

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Anxiety is not a catchall for your lack of willingness to step TF up!

Not my usual post but…

Let me start this by sharing that I had a long a torturous journey with anxiety myself. I went through deep panic attacks and would feel the terror in my body frequently growing up. I was diagnosed over and over again with several different anxiety disorders.

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The physical aspect of the sexing is… pretty good.

Not the best as we work around momentary physical challenges in our bodies.

Working to get into a rhythm and position that both arouse and is comfortable.

I feel us both floating in and out of presence…
Into our fear, into our uncertainty, into our ego’s
But again and again we
Continue to call each other back from the inner world that is calling
Back into our bodies and back into connection.
A calling back each time we see the other drift.

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You’re letting your spark die for comfort

You can still remember the days when you felt truly and utterly ALIVE!!!

The times when you were turned on at every turn by life and the world felt new.

Those days when each and every day held a new adventure, a new thing to learn, a new fit of laughter.

When you lived on the constant edge of your comfort zone and all that that brings with it!

Now you are solid. Your are grounded. You are happy and grateful. Read more