When we have kids or are around kids, it’s pretty common sense that if they ask a question or aren’t understanding a perspective, that we will talk at “their level”.
As a coach, I do this daily with clients because while pushing my clients to grow, I also recognize that they are all at different stage in their lives. More than that though, I realize that their experiences and foundations are different.
Though in my daily life with lovers, family, and friends. Sometimes I make efforts too come at those I love with the same understanding and at other times…
Well let’s just say that I lose this perspective.
The perspective of talking and understanding others from where they are at mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, not just to appease them but to expand self.
When we lose sight of that fact that every person has a different foundation and thus different neurological patterns for how they process and act, we lose sight of the other person.
Not only do we lose sight of the other person but we close down our own growth process but we also step into a space of self-centered. Centered in our own thoughts, feelings, desires, and not willing to open that view to anyone else.
And it’s a common thing in most relationships!!

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TᕼE Oᒪᗪ ᗯOᗰᗩᑎ TᕼᗩT ᑕᕼᗩᑎGEᗪ ᗰY ᗪᗩY!
 
 
The self-analysis was strong with me this morning!
 
I woke up in a strange energy and knew I needed to give myself some space for processing of some recent realizations.
 
So instead of forcing myself to do work that was not aligned, I ended up at my favorite park.
 
Despite trying to pull my brain back to my body and the present moment….
 
Off it ran during the walk to criticize myself about some recent situations. I ended up in complete analysis paralysis.

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“When we realize that we are all sinners needing forgiveness, it will be easy for us to forgive others.”- Mother Theresa, ‘No Greater Love’
 
The last few days I’ve spent time re-reading and meditating with one of my favorite books (“No Greater Love by Mother Theresa), to tap me into my heart and to Christ Consciousness.
 
The above quote, while simple, is so very true!
 
And more than ever I believe this sentiments on forgiveness to be important to our society.

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Love is Not Equal.
When you love someone it is unique. Unique to your energy, your personality, your lifestyle and that other person.
Yet, so many wish and desire and even tear relationships apart because the love isn’t equal.
How would one even measure such a thing? How to you measure the energy of love?
In roses? In calls/texts made? In time spent? In services provided?
Lately the topic of inequality of love has come up again and again with my clients, family, and friends.
I had a client other day, and then shortly after a friend ask me the same thing…
“Why am I the one that always has to reach out?”

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Love in our lives isn’t…
a sometimes…
a when…
a condition.
Love is a consistent energy that must be vibrationally met and also connected with on consistent basis throughout our day.
Its an energy that we first must plug into within ourselves and within spirit. We must feel this immensity and allow it to fill our very beings and flow through us.
Flowing through us to those in our lives…
NO MATTER WHAT

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Spirituality is uplifting until you use it as a weapon to back bad behaviors.
 
The last few weeks this concept has been stirring in my brain. Not quite fully formed as I fought with myself in perfect Virgo style of wanting to see all sides of a situation.
 
But I also have been in observance mode.
Observance mode of how we use our spiritual tools and concepts to back our negative behaviors…
 
To disconnect from our fellow man
To create even more judgment
To feel superior
And to back our laziness to put true effort into our lives and relationships.

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Others will never see!
The other day I found myself sharing about my childhood home and the tiny little community I grew up in. At one point I even pulled up pictures and maps to explain what I was talking about. This other person of course heard me but the picture in his head was NOT the picture I saw in my own head.
Later that same day I found myself with tears streaming down my face as I was attempting to share a sensitive memory with a friend. A person that knows me better than anyone else in my life. Yet, the words that I was trying to share were not getting through the knot that I felt in my chest and the memory that was right behind my eyes. I stumbled over words and tried to dance around painting a picture but knowing that whatever picture I painted would NEVER truly explain the immensity of the memory.
And as I sat later listening to someone else share on a here and now type situation that was swirling and consuming their lives…

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Pausing.
 
The challenge of movers and shakers everywhere!
 
In business
In relationships
And in Life as a whole
 
Except those rare few that know and acknowledge that to be truly successful and fulfilled in life, it takes implementing the pause!
 
Now, there is so many different ways we can pause in our crazy lives.
We can pause in a conversation to check our ego response and thus expand our spiritual vessel
We can pause for self-love and self-care when we are overwhelmed
We can pause the TV channel 🙂

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There are days like today, where I sit staring at the sky and  feeling the breeze. Breathing in the simplicity of this thing called life and yet feeling the complication of being a so called “adult”.

All the lists, the ‘to dos’ , the planning, the fear, the how to’s, and the ego running around it’s little hampster wheel.

And so I sit here pondering and feel a call into my childlike heart.

Now, at halfway through 35yrs old I am well into adulthood and in truth I was never a typical child in the normal sense. That simply wasn’t the life I lived as a kiddo. I was the stressed out, overworked, caretaker that had a calling at a young age to “hold”.

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If you loved them… you’d let them go.
You’d want them to shine their light.
You’d look at the beauty and step out of ego.
If you loved them you wouldn’t try to hurt them
You would not want to see them in pain and suffering
You would not want to create chaos in their world.
Though the majority of relationships that preach… LOVE
Are simply faking it.
It’s not love but conditional need fulfillment.
If your partner is filling your needs then you are in “love” but the second that things go south in a relationship and it is no longer aligned…
Well then you call people names, mess with their stuff, try to ruin their other relationships, etc.
You allow your ego to take the reins and the entire time with a vengeful attitude.
Which is never and will never be love.
It’s easy to watch this is relationships all around us…
When divorce cases drag the others reputation through the mud
When in a break-up one partner stalks another
When lines are drawn in the sand with friends and family
Or simply the process of berating the other party to those around us.
Does this really come from a place of love?

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