You’re either healing her or traumatizing her with your sex.
There is no middle ground.
There are shades and degrees to which you can either traumatize her or heal her but in each encounter you are doing one or the other.
And most men are doing more trauma than healing! Read more
Ladies, stop being too good for the knight and shining armor!
I remember being a little girl and watching/reading fairy tales where the prince would ride in and save the day. The damsel-like princess would hold onto him and they would ride away into the sunset of their happily ever after!
It was beautiful but even as a young girl I knew this was not the case in the real world. I enjoyed pretending but knew these were just stories. Women don’t need to be saved and aren’t helpless. I was, as many of you were, raised to believe in female independence and equality.
But if I’m honest a piece of these stories now and even then was appealing. The masculine riding in and allowing the feminine to surrender. There was a thread in these stories that felt “right”.
As a Sex & relationship Coach, it is always interesting interacting with others on my social media accounts because of the ways it shines a light on many of the very reasons we struggle in today’s society with relationships.
You would think that this would only be true of those that grew up since the stir of social media but this is not the case! The dysfunctional relational dynamics across generations becomes very apparent on platforms such as Facebook.
Your relationships, all of your relationships, need moderate effort most of the time.
Not 10% and not 100% effort.
I was standing in yoga when the instructor reminded us to engage in a pose with moderate effort.
If we threw 100% then we would not be able to sustain
If we threw out 10% then we would not be stretching and expanding.
And I thought how this relates to our relationships.
You claim to love it…
You are constantly desiring it…
But have you ever thought what “it” is???
And if you are aligned to what you claim “it” to be..
The thing so many want, think about, and do… But don’t have a clear understanding of WHY and even if they have a why.. often they are not living in alignment with that why. Read more
He’s a bit of a fixer-upper!
Have you ever watched the children’s movie “Frozen”.
I have but I’ve never listened intently to some of the words of one song.
While camping the other day this song came on and I recognized it as a song from Frozen. I quickly became quite concerned about some of the words.
Having MORE won’t help
Having BETTER technique won’t help
Having DEEPER meditation/energetic healing won’t help.
“She only drinks coffee at midnight, when the moment is not
Right, her timing is quite unusual
You see her confidence is tragic, but her intuition magic
And the shape of her body unusual” -Train, “Meet Virginia”
I have always had a fascination for this song. Since I was a young girl riding the bus and hearing these lyrics for the first I felt like I “got” Virginia
So as I am driving down the road and song comes on I find myself belting it out with passion. Read more