Author Addison Bell, Originally Published on Performance Insiders

Most men learn very early how to masturbate and, thus, begin conditioning their bodies into what, for some, remains a lifetime of addiction to short-lived, mediocre orgasms. Many are uneducated and unaware about how to increase their orgasmic potential, the benefits, and the nuances of such a primal part of themselves.

With the increase in availability of pornography and our fast paced society, men have gotten further and further away from experiencing the true bliss that their sexing can provide.

Orgasm & Ejaculation Are Separate

“Pump, Pump, Ooo, Goo” is not an orgasm! Orgasm and ejaculation are actually separate processes, and each can happen without the other. Orgasm actually begins about 2-7 seconds before the start of ejaculation and then continues on for upwards of 20 seconds. Everyone’s orgasm length is a little different, and it changes depending on several health factors.

Ejaculation is the expulsion of not only semen but also neurotransmitters that send the body into a state of rest and recovery. This rest and recovery is due to the body’s natural blocking of testosterone and dopamine in order to settle the sympathetic nervous system, accounting for why men become sleepy and lethargic after ejaculation. Once a man ejaculates, the refractory period can last anywhere from a few minutes to a few days depending on the health and age of the man.

Men Are Multi-Orgasmic

Men Are Multi-Orgasmic
Your woman’s, not the only one who can have hours of pleasure in bed! A man can learn through tantric practices and other sexual techniques to retain his semen and, thus, experience multiple orgasms. This will look more like his female counterpart’s orgasm with multiple peaks and actual changes in sensation without ejaculation.

For the majority of men,after years of training their bodies and minds to intermingle orgasm and ejaculation, they usually require both physical and mental effort to work through the separation process and learn to be multi-orgasmic. Learning the separation process opens up a world of possibilities for a man when it comes to sex, masturbation, and simply maintaining energy and health in daily life.

There are a variety of exercises and techniques out there to help men become multi-orgasmic, but one of the simplest and most effective means is in strengthening your pelvic floor muscles. By strengthening your pubococcygeus (PC) muscle, which is located between your testicles and your anus, you can begin to gain control over your ejaculation. This can be done through the practice of Kegels, an exercise in which you contact your PC muscle for 10-20 seconds several times per day. The stronger your PC muscle, the longer you will last, and the more intense your orgasms will be.

Different Types of Orgasms

Just like women, men can have several different types of orgasms that create different bodily experiences. A few of the more common types are the following:

  • Ejaculatory Orgasm: This is your standard orgasm with ejaculation. This type requires very little control and no knowledge about orgasm.
  • Prostate Orgasm: This type is created by stimulating the prostate gland with either a finger or a toy. Being able to relax into this type of stimulation is imperative to achieving this type of orgasm.
  • Pelvic Orgasm: This type is when you learn to pull the energy back up into the pelvis through different energetic techniques.
  • Blended/Full Body Orgasm: This type of orgasm pulls the energy of orgasm up the spinal cord and disperses it throughout the body. This is achieved through a multitude of different manners of stimulating the penis, prostate, and other body parts.
  • Anal Orgasm: This type of play is often “off limits” for many men but can have powerful orgasmic effects. If men wish to explore this type of play, they should research and discuss it with a partner before jumping in.

Sex is Better than Masturbation

Sex is Better than Masturbation

Masturbation is a perfectly normal and healthy practice, but it does not provide the same physiological benefits as sex and can do some harm to your orgasm.

When men masturbate, they often integrate the use of porn or fantasy, which conditions the body to respond to specific types of stimulus, some of which cannot be replicated with a partner. The same goes for getting physiologically conditioned to one type of stroke, pressure, or touch in the middle of masturbation that will, again, be difficult to replicate.

Recent studies have shown that masturbatory ejaculation releases four times less of the hormone prolactin than sex, which is good in that it makes the male refractory period shorter with masturbation than with sex. But it also means that men are not receiving the same level of satisfaction.

Male Benefits of Orgasm

Orgasm is highly beneficial to a man’s mental and physical well-being and can help to combat many maladies. Orgasm has been shown to decrease stress, increases levels of happiness, and increase sleep due to the prolactin released during ejaculation.

Also, oxytocin, which is released during orgasm, has been shown to decrease pain, including headaches and migraines. Not only do orgasms help stave off minor illness, but individuals having frequent sex have a decreased rate of heart disease and prostate cancer.

Ejaculating is Bad…& Good

Ejaculating is Bad Good

You could read research studies that state that ejaculation is negative, and you could also read research studies stating all the benefits of ejaculation. Tantric practitioners often teach retaining ejaculate due to the benefits of deeper orgasm and the ability for men who can retain ejaculate to become multi-orgasmic.

Also, there is days’ worth of nutrients in a man’s ejaculate, so every time a man cums, he loses vital nutrients.But at the same time, these nutrients have extremely beneficial properties to a female partner, so when a man ejaculates in a woman or on a woman’s skin, he is benefiting his female counterpart’s body by helping with digestion, physical appearance, and mood, among many other benefits.

Ejaculation creates a lower rate of prostate cancer in men who are engaging in occasional ejaculation and is, therefore, good for the male body.

In terms of relationships, ejaculation can help bond a couple at a deeper level as they share fully in each other. So ejaculation is neither good nor bad but is more so something to be controlled. When a man controls his desire to ejaculate, he controls his health, his life, and his pleasure.

Also See: How To Hold Ejaculation? 7 Simple Ways To Last Longer In Bed


Men’s orgasm and sexuality can be life changing if they take the time to learn more about themselves and their orgasmic potential. Don’t settle for mediocre orgasm but reach for soul-shaking orgasms. The important thing is that a man learns to control his sexuality for the benefit of his physical, emotional, and sexual health as well as his pleasure!

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